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User Topic: Are "Mondays" tough for anyone else?
TheAmazingWondertwin
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Default  Posted: 5:36 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ladies first- in answer to your question- I haven't read the live language book but I would say, yes- quality time is definitely ours.
We have always done so well when we get to spend our time together. The job he had before and during the A kept him away ALL the time with no set schedule and hardly any days off. I became like a single mom for two years- feeling alone and so disconnected from him. And he was trapped by his schedule and work demands. Well, not so trapped he couldn't make time for her apparently, but that's another thread....


Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 39
Him- FWS
14 years- 2 middle school children
DDay- 07-24-2013
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
Avalanche of Truth on November 14, 2013
Length of A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC

Posts: 470 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 5:39 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are welcome.

I cannot express my gratitude enough for everyone that is brave enough to share their personal journeys.

I have often been grateful for this site for the very reason you mention. The willingness of others to share this very traumatic, personal journey helps me to NORMALIZE my feelings....not minimizing them. This helps me to keep things in perspective and find the courage to get up time and again after the roller coaster knocks me down again.

We survived....Today is TUESDAY!

[This message edited by blakesteele at 5:40 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3411 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Marathonwaseasy
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Member # 40674
Default  Posted: 5:41 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mondays are tough for me too - the after weekend thing and also it was Mon and Fri that our wee one was in paid childcare and those were the days he spent with OW
I paid to give him time for himself and look what he did with that - what a fool
Dday was a Friday


Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."


Posts: 421 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ireland
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 5:43 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/

is a link to the free online love languages quiz. It is quick, easy and...in our case...spot on.

This little effort pays off in a much better understanding of yourself and, when shared with a receptive spouse, will offer your spouse a chance to choose to learn to speak your love language.

God be with us all.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3411 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Ambergray
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Default  Posted: 5:52 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes! Almost posted this same topic a few weeks ago. We will have a great weekend and then Monday hits and I feel disconnected. I also have time on my hands and I start thinking and thinking and thinking.


Me-38
WH-38
Dday June 2013

"What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you. Ralph Waldo Emerson


Posts: 85 | Registered: Sep 2013
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ralph Waldo Emerson...wonderful quote from him Ambergray.

Just a couple of days ago another member reminded me of Aldo Leopold.

I just returned from a foresters conference.

This past 13 months I have started to get back in touch with parts of me that I had unknowingly put on a shelf sometime in the past....These two men have been influencial in my life....while not related to the original post....I think it ties in like this.

My draw to nature has helped me heal. My recent conference, combined with a reminder of these two men, comforts me.

We all know this...but look inside yourself and see what comforts you outside of your spouse, maybe even outside of any other human relationship. Find something that dissolves that "free time" that enables us to get lost in deep thoughts surrounding our M and our pain....and re-enables us to have FUN!

God be with us all.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 8:52 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3411 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
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