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User Topic: DS Made Me Cry This Morning
Healing2012
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Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was driving my DS to school this morning and out of nowhere I hear his little voice from the backseat say, "Mama, I'm going to miss you when you're gone." Ugh. Mondays are the days he goes back to dad's/grandma's house.
I told him I would miss him every second...and then the tears started. Of course, in typical 5-year old fashion, he was onto a new topic (probably those darn Angry Birds!).

Any experience in dealing with this kind of stuff? It hurts my heart to think that he's worrying about missing me. I know he is a happy little kid when he is with his dad, so it's not like I think he's miserable there and better off with me. I just don't want him worrying or being sad.

I just hate all of this...


BS: Me (41)
WS: Husband (47)
Married 9 years
Two children 6 & 17 (my stepson)
D-day #1: 12/18/11
D-day #2: 8/26/12 (still in contact w/ OW)
Status: Separated - not R, not D.

Posts: 359 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Midwest
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Healing)))

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Pippy
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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You handled it well by validating his feelings. That tells him he is safe telling you how he feels. Good job Mom!


I divorced him because I didn't like his girlfriend.
M 30 yrs.


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BrokenPieces
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When my eldest was that age, he would sit in my lap and SOB for 2 1/2 hours before he went to his dads house. He hated going and I had to force him. It was horrific. I went to a bead store and bought those square letter beads and made him a bracelet on elastic that said, "I <3 Mom". He wore it every time he went there and it helped him a LOT. He is 11 now and still keeps it by his bed side and still occasionally takes it with him on his visits with his dad.

Hope that helps hon. I know how awful it is. (((HUGE HUGS)))


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DDay 1/05
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Thefly559
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My son is 7 and he says these things often. It is heart breaking. " daddy I don't want divorce , I am gonna talk to the judge ". This sucks and I feel your pain. I am sorry but it sounds like you are doing and saying the right things. All the best.


"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

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Healing2012
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Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone! I really do feel better tonight. I think part of it is the "low" I hit each time I know I won't see my DS for a few days. I like the idea of a bracelet or trinket of some sort that will remind him of how much I love and miss him.

I'm so glad I'm not alone here...


BS: Me (41)
WS: Husband (47)
Married 9 years
Two children 6 & 17 (my stepson)
D-day #1: 12/18/11
D-day #2: 8/26/12 (still in contact w/ OW)
Status: Separated - not R, not D.

Posts: 359 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Midwest
Topic Posts: 6

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