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User Topic: Why Can There Not Be a Moment's Rest for Us?
TimeToManUp
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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And I do mean for us. Not just TCD, not just me... US. Really, it is always something. I know that is how life goes. That is how I always wanted TCD to approach life... There will always be SOMETHING, you need to be prepared to handle whatever life throws at you. It just seems unrelenting for us. I know that there are people who have it much worse than us. Our problems may seem minor to many, but to us they are all important, amplified by the light of my A.

So now it seems like the dog is dying. Pretty blunt, I know, but why sugar coat it? She is 13, way beyond the life expectancy for a boxer. She has been battling incontinency for years (thankfully just pee!) and her joints have gotten very bad, even with meds. Yesterday she fell down the stairs... Twice. Was peeing randomly all over the house, sometimes seemingly unaware she was even doing it. Her breathing was shallow and labored overnight. She was constantly walking in circles and not bending one leg.

TCD is taking her to the vet as we speak. I feel like euthanizing her is inevitable. Obviously it's not TRAGIC, but it is still SAD. How much sadness can we handle?

I know what I need to do for TCD. I know I need to be there for her. We just can't seem to catch a breather! Something, some ray of light to recharge our collective batteries before going back to battle the demons...

Ugggggggh... Sorry, this was very rambling and disjointed, but I'm typing on my phone and I am very tired... The OT clock offically ticked past 1000 hours Saturday night/Sunday morning. Coupled with everything else, I'm just flat out EXHAUSTED.


I know we're worth it.
WH (Me-33)
BW (tattoodchinadoll-31)
D-Day: 12/22/11
Together 15 years, married for 10.
Three daughters, 8, 4 and 2.

Posts: 227 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: New Jersey
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear ya Dude. We're barely above water here too. It's all I can do to not stomp my foot and whine, "It's not fair!" like a 4 year old. Wouldn't remedy anything I know. But it's how I feel ATM.

Really sorry about your dog.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Don't be ashamed of your story. It will inspire others.


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She-Ra
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Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm very sorry to hear about your dog. Dogs are important members of the family and keep everyone together. We had my 14 1/2 yr old labxbloodhound put down a year and a half ago and it still brings tears to my eyes about the last day. He was a family dog and lived at my parents but he was always "my" dog as I was his favourite.

Sounds like your dog is definitely in pain and suffering. I wish you guys strength today and making a decision for what's best for your pooch. I held my dog and kissed his head while he was put down. No one else in my family could handle it but I didn't want the dog to be alone in his last moment. If you can take a few days off work to spend with the family that would help TCD and your girls.

Take care and I will be thinking of you guys


FWW 33 BH 34
Met 9 yrs ago, together for 7, married for 3
Dday Aug 10, 2012
Beautiful daughter born June 2013

Showing signs of true R. I'm hopeful

The WW formerly known as messedupchick


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TimeToManUp
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FYI, I didn't mean to leave the stop sign up... Completely whiffed on that one.

So TCD just left the vet. He gave the dog some painkillers, a steroid shot and cortisone. He said she's obviously in pain, but some of it seems neurological. So we're going to wait it out for a bit and keep an eye on her for now. No matter what, we're only buying time, staving off the inevitable.


I know we're worth it.
WH (Me-33)
BW (tattoodchinadoll-31)
D-Day: 12/22/11
Together 15 years, married for 10.
Three daughters, 8, 4 and 2.

Posts: 227 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: New Jersey
metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TimetoManUp, I have removed the stop sign for you .



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((TTMU, TCD, and family)))

I'm so sorry.


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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. I would be bereft if anything were to happen to my dog. He's the only "person" who's always there for me, no matter what.

I hope the injections buy some quality, comfortable time for your dog.

I also hope that life lets up a little on you.


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WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS17
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
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OnAnIsland
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Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Last year right around when I found out my WH had broken NC, we got a dx of bone cancer in our now 12 year old dog. It was terrible. A year later and he is still with us, but with only 3 legs these days. He has adjusted well, but we really couldn't face losing him then, and can't imagine it now.

So sorry for you, your family, and your dog. Just keep hanging in there. And share your grief and fears with each other. A lot of tender learning and sharing moments came out of this tough time for us and our kids.


D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou


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Dark Inertia
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup. Probably the truest idiom is "when it rains, it pours." Both of you always sound so exhausted when you post, be it from work or life. I hope that soon enough you both can gain some peace.


"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

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knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry to hear about your dog. I hope you guys get a break for a while at least.


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D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

Posts: 1379 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
TimeToManUp
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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for removing the stop sign, I appreciate it!

Thank you all for the kind words and support. I do hope that TCD especially can have some final quality time with the dog. Apparently she did get up to go drink and eat while TCD had the kids at DD8's hockey practice, so that was encouraging.

We are both tired. Very much so. I acknowledge my role in that... It took me so long to "get it" that so much energy was simply wasted. But now life just won't let up for a second. Sorry for whining. Just feeling down right now. Thanks again, everyone.


I know we're worth it.
WH (Me-33)
BW (tattoodchinadoll-31)
D-Day: 12/22/11
Together 15 years, married for 10.
Three daughters, 8, 4 and 2.

Posts: 227 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: New Jersey
1DumbHusband
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Default  Posted: 12:40 AM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry to hear about your dog. I dread the day I have to do the same because my dog is like a son to me. I hope you guys can rest a little.


Me: FWH 34
Her: 31 and deserving much better than I've given her (CCW82)
Married 4 years, together 6 years.
D-Day: June 17th, 2013
"Don't give up. You're married until you're not. You never know what tomorrow will bring."

Posts: 121 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Dallas
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