I swear, people can't own their own shit to save their lives.
Seriously, what she said. ^
You are not responsible for his choices to act like an ass, just as he was not responsible for YOUR choices to act like one. Everyone is responsible for themselves.
Good luck with your discussion with him...I hope it goes well.Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
Married 2.5 years
Reconciled and remarried.