First time, "She (ow) called when I was really buzzed and since she lives so close to the bar I crashed on her sofa."
Second time, "Yes, that takeout place is a block from 'her' apartment, but what should I do if I want those particular tacos....drive several miles out of my way?" (Yeah, he bumped into her by "accident" that time.
Third time, "I don't know why I called her"
There were other times I'm sure , but the lines were blurry of when, where, etc.
When I get sad, I think back to those devastating days and feel better about a hopefully brighter future. Even if its alone.
I'm sure others here have more interesting stories of why NC was broken! The truth is usually they just wanted to, right?
Mine managed (as far as I know) not to contact any of his ladeez when we were in the six-month trial R phase, but I found out later he was busy grooming a new victim on the road, but he was and is an addict so probably a different scenario.
They do get addicted to the rush though, I do believe that.
Onward and upward. Not my problem anymore!
the last time she contacted H was because she was so upset that her H might possibly have a brain tumor--then she called him back a week later to say ohhh sorry he doesn't have a brain tumor. I think she made the whole thing up. Besides so what? I don't care what her H has or not have....its her problem not my H's.
The best was when he finally got his head removed from his ass, and was doing the work of R. She contacted him again, and he told her to leave him alone, he was done, she had done enough damage, and she offered to send him some fancy ass expensive bottle of wine that they had shared ar some point. "He said great send it, we would be happy to celebrate our new beginning on your dime."
She told him he was a dick and hung up on him, I'm still waiting for that expensive wine.
me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
The conditions we face do not define us. They remind us of who we are and who we want to be.
My favorite, though, was when she called (the week after D-Day) to tell him that she got a black eye and she didn't really know where it came from, but maybe it was from roughhousing with her two sons...but that she did just break up with this trashy guy (hint hint). This was early on and I was glad my WH was upfront about telling me she called. I had her pegged then and there that she was nothing but a drama queen who wanted to see just how attached he was to her. She wanted to see if he'd come to her rescue
Anyway, he broke NC by calling her back and then calling her parents to make sure she was OK. Dumbass.
"I wanted to make sure she was okay"
I got this one too, lame!
Don't keep dancing with the Devil and wonder why you are still in Hell.
It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.
After she sent a bunny boiler email to me on my DD's bday I was livid and decided to tell her BSO. OW had told my WH that her current SO was a previous "guy on the side" when she was in a different relationship. When I went to his home to inform him of the A, he seemed totally shocked. I said to him "I'm surprised your shocked, OW said that you were her man on the side in her previous relationship" He said, that no he wasn't ever a guy on the side. So, in my attempt to point out to my WH that OW was a liar, I told him that her BSO denied that he was a previous OM. Some how in my WH's messed up thinking he rationalized that it was okay to cheat with her because her BSO would expect it due to their history.
Well, that backfired, and WH was so hurt that his OW lied to him and he obsessed (to me) that he had to know the truth - thus re-establishing contact and their A.
"I was drunk" (from a man who has NEVER excused anyone for drunken behavior)
"She unblocked me and texted me, so I started talking to her again."
"I thought you were going to divorce me." (several times, even after he swore he would not talk to her regardless of whether we divorce or not)
"I thought there was no hope for us." (see above)
"I thought, why do all the hard work when I can just do the easy thing and be with her instead." (see above)
"I don't know. It was the dumbest thing I have ever done." (several times on this one)
"I have issues. You can ask the therapist~!"
"I didn't have the tools NOT to call her."