I am so sorry that you're dealing with this. It ripped my heart out when I saw the texts with the moronic xo's. As others have said, she's most likely cheating.

Just wanted to add a comment about *proof*.

I gathered much evidence, not for legal reasons but so I could determine what was lies when I was later told them; when he went off to the gas lighting, TTing fantasy land of the typical cheating fool.
I don't know if this was a 'good' idea but it means, even now, when crap falls out of his mouth I can say (and do), " I call bullshit on that. Try again."
It helps me that he knows that I know when he's lying...meh...

Oh, it was never actual talk of physical stuff, but flirty and going back down memory lane to times when we were physical. I wondered if it was leading up to something like your wife was doing.

I finally tested it out and asked him, "does your wife know that you write to me?" He said yes, but you know what? he hasn't written back!

Yes, I agree on the signatures unfortunately and find that people get hugely juvenile during affairs-OW in the case of XPervert actually puts flashy hearts on her social network pages with him on it...it looks ridiculous for "grown ups".

I'm sorry for your hard time, limbo, but glad you're thinking. Time to watch, time to plan.