We just had our 13th year wedding anniversary (we've been together 17 years). I found myself silently count that it's our 6th year instead because I feel like that the "real" marriage started when we decided to R. In a way I'm glad I think it's our "6th year wedding anniversary" instead of our "6th year since A was revealed" which I used to count it as. Love, life, and forgiveness is definitely possible after A. I actually feel my marriage is even better than ever. That all that pain and trouble to R was worth it.
Just want to share. Hugs to all of you working on R.Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.