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User Topic: Married means Married
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Married means MARRIED you moron!" and "Things that every WS needs to know"

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=324250

are my two favourite pieces on SI.

I often think that when a newbie first comes here and tells us they have JFO our first piece of advice should be to print these two and give them to the WS. (I sure wish I had had them on that awful night).

A little shock therapy might wake them up.

HUGS

Laura


Married 32yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 60yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2748 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
Kierst13
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Member # 39197
Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Something must be wrong with me, I am a BS and I don't find it interesting or funny. It's an over-generalization that puts everything wrong with the marriage on the WS.


Story in my profile
He lied, I gave the gift of R
He became the model remorseful WS...all while lying and seeing her
Am I done? Yes I am!

Posts: 347 | Registered: May 2013
Truly
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Member # 40715
Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome...but so sad that this applies to ALL cheaters...and they all think they are so 'unique' and 'different' and even 'in love'

Nope. All the same.

Sigh


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


Posts: 257 | Registered: Sep 2013
Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Crushed1

Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: With my dad...and my dog...
jackie89
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So great!!!


Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


Posts: 481 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
iwillNOT
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Member # 40605
Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HA! Sing it, sister!


Me: BS, 43
Him: WH, 44
Together 21 years
Married 14 years
Kiddos 2,6,8,10
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Rugsweep now, pay later. Ask me how I know.

Posts: 503 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest
LadyLove
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Simply awesome!


BW - 46 (me)
WH - 48 Ladyslove
Don't know if I can live with it.

Posts: 85 | Registered: Sep 2013
marlie2014
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Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Except for the profanity (sorry, I know it doesn't bother most people) I LOVE THIS!!!!

But...English is WS's second language, so it wouldn't have the same impact for him. And it would take me forever to really translate it well into Spanish. Oh,well.


BS: 33
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
1 OC 5 yrs old and another on the way (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Oct 2013
Snapdragon
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Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Something must be wrong with me, I am a BS and I don't find it interesting or funny. It's an over-generalization that puts everything wrong with the marriage on the WS.

No it doesn't. It places all of the responsibility of the cheating on the WS. It places all of the responsibility of being selfish, self-centered, and immature on the WS.

At least that is my interpretation. I would be interested in hearing more about your thoughts, though.


Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.

"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink


Posts: 3081 | Registered: May 2004 | From: Midwest
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WORD

My stupid WH said "something was missing" when he joined AFF. Yes Ass, your brain and your moral compass and your ability to link consequences to actions all went missing.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
tlsmi
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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is sarcasm. Wonderfully put, I might add. It is NOT our fault no matter how those fuckers try to spin it.

Not our fault they cheated. Let's think of other ways they could have dealt with their problems with marriage...um, counseling, TAlKING, seperation, divorce? Many other avenues available. But no, they fuck somebody else. Don't put this shit on me.

I loved this and think it should be required reading for all.


Posts: 2135 | Registered: Feb 2005 | From: AZ
JustDone
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here you go, Blobette:


Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.

Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.


Posts: 2786 | Registered: Feb 2006
JustDone
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

double post

[This message edited by JustDone at 10:05 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday)]


Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.

Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.


Posts: 2786 | Registered: Feb 2006
Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 1:16 AM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I still remember my H's face when my H read this, you should have seen him squirming and blushing. It busted his little 'secret' fantasy bubble in his mind for good.


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

Posts: 9716 | Registered: Feb 2005 | From: Texas
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 6:57 AM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want to send this to every married person posting on CL. They ALL need this truth!!!


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1763 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
million pieces
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Default  Posted: 6:58 AM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Something must be wrong with me, I am a BS and I don't find it interesting or funny. It's an over-generalization that puts everything wrong with the marriage on the WS.

This is probably written in response to having the whole A blamed on the BW. I know that I got blamed for everything, still do almost 4 yrs later. I still remember in our 3 weeks of false R when my ex blamed EVERYTHING on me. I had told him that if he broke contact/walked out, I was going to start telling family, including his (they had been calling daily about planning for his Bday). He said if I called his parents, he'd call my dad and say that "I had been mean to him for years". Yes mean. And he couldn't tell me one example. So I dared him to call my dad and tell them that he'd been fucking a bar slut, using marital money, and planning on moving out because I had been mean to him.


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 11
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1244 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
dindy
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Default  Posted: 7:12 AM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fab and so true.

Wish I could send this to ex but he's that self-absorbed he wouldn't get it!


Posts: 459 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: uk
jstbreathe
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Default  Posted: 7:28 AM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You just made my day!


The trust of the innocent is the liar's most useful tool.
Stephen King
Me: BW
Him: WH
Married: 18 years
2 sons, 11&15
Trying to R

Posts: 151 | Registered: Sep 2013
heartache101
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Default  Posted: 7:51 AM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Kierst)))

Cheating is all on the WS. I dont care if the BS Sat on the couch 24/7 eating oreos and nothing else for ever! Stepping outside of the marriage for emotional and or physical intimacy/relationship is 100% on the wayward.

You work on a marriage that us in trouble. As stated above if you would take the time and effort you spent on thinking and being with the AP and put that into your marriage your rewards would be unlimited.

I am sorry someone has made you feel that a waywards actions are your fault.


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3187 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
outtanowhere
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gemini, I had the same thought as I was reading this masterpiece! I want to save it in my documents then cut and paste it to all those sickening ads on Craigslist and Backpage. Wonder what would happen if we all did that?


BS - 58
SAWH - 61 multiple encounters with prostitutes and other sex workers
Married 37 years
Dday - 2/19/13 - found the emails
He promised me Heaven then put me thru hell

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