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User Topic: I'm starting to get very anxious and depressed
confused girl
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Default  Posted: 11:38 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so happy to hear things went well.

You know the anxiety will decrease as you see them again.

I think having kids around is just what you need!

The visual of you and the little girl squatting down as you talk just makes me smile.

[This message edited by confused girl at 11:38 PM, October 28th (Monday)]


Love always hopes.

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EvenKeel
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Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for updating us!

That is soooo funny about the squatting!

So was the harming due to the anticipation/stress? Meaning, now that you met them, will it be easier to go again over the holidays?

I am so happy for ya!


Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.


Posts: 2012 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
Myname
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

was the harming due to the anticipation/stress? Meaning, now that you met them, will it be easier to go again over the holidays?

Yes and no. Yes the self harm was due to the stress of going in the plane and meeting them. In the past when going to see SO my pattern has been to self harm before going. Then shove down all the anxiety and stress of going into uncomfortable places while I'm there but then come home and having some kind of weird delayed reaction to being in stressful situations. And then I self harm.

I have a lot of work to do this week and I'm not feeling well so I don't think self harm is going to be an issue.

I will say this. Focusing on those kids helped so much. We went to the zoo which is semi triggery for me but I didn't think about it at all. I was too focused on hanging out with them and the two of them battling for my attention to even think about triggers.


DD: 1-14-09 EA/PA OM #1
TT: 5-11&12-09
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
No kids
Me BH: 38
12-08-10: S

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confused girl
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Default  Posted: 7:15 AM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is such a hard time of year for you and you have made such strides.

I can't wait to continue to hear more updates.


Love always hopes.

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pretty good update, myname. I'm so glad that the kids recognized your awesomeness right off the bat.

Please find a way to stop self-harming. I ache for you when I read your posts.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It sounds like the distraction of SO and her kids are just what you needed!!


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