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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, October 25th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I mean who turns up on your doorstep at 1am to tell you such news and offers to go for a coffee to sit down and chat the next day???
The likes of her and the MOW in my case. Who turns up on the doorstep on a Sunday morning having left home at 6am, driven 80 miles and sat outside texting things like “I’m sitting in the car on your road and I think you had better come and talk to me” and then kind of half expects to be invited in by the BW!! She knew fWH was out, she had seen him drive off with DS#3. And she looked dreadful – no make up, no attempt to do her hair or anything. Dowdy, frumpy and distraught. I wanted to rip her face off and batter her to a pulp, but instead I shut the door in her face. I was proud to be classy too, it felt good! And there’s no need to engage with crazy.

after promising me that while she was in my home they had never had sex in it he told me they had sex in our front room.
TT………. Expect more.

I walked into the lounge some weeks after d-day and it suddenly hit me. I stared at fWH and he asked me what was wrong. I just said "who ARE you?"

D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 57 y/o Him, WS, 58 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 19 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, October 25th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

MJane, I am so sorry you're going through this.

To become the OW (or OM), either you know it's wrong and have to find a way to rationalize your choices (by wrapping yourself in lies and delusions so thick compassion or shame can't get through to you) or you don't think it's wrong/don't care.

I would imagine in either scenario a confrontation with a devastated BS would usually have little impact.

DDay: 2013
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