I have great friends a supportive family and live in one of the greatest, most active cities in the world. But the smallest things sometimes can bring me down.
I'm happy with myself and my life but damn I just miss having someone. Why is it so hard to meet a good decent person? Seriously? Last night, I was chatting with someone at the bar. We had a great conversation about life, books, etc. I feel like I really connected with him and we were chatting for like an hour. Then he goes to the bathroom and I'm waiting, and finally I'm like, ok I guess I'll go to the bathroom too, and then I see he's talking to another girl, lol. And not to brag, but ahem, you left this to talk to that???
It's not a big deal and I'm not taking it that seriously, but I hate feeling rejected, ya know? I always feel like I'm just not good enough and I wonder if I'll ever find what I really want and always thought I would have - a real connection with someone that I could have as my partner.
Just a downer kinda mood. I came home and ate pizza thinking "F** it, no one's gonna see me naked for awhile anyhow" lol.
I would get a dog because BOY do I miss mine, but I travel for work and this city is expensive enough without a dog walker. Like everything else, having a dog is just easier when you have a partner. Maybe I'll just make it work anyhow. I just miss that unconditional love, ya know?
Sorry for being a grump munch.
[This message edited by Confused1829 at 11:53 AM, October 26th (Saturday)]
Hugs to you. Do something extra nice for yourself today.
PS...sometimes I wish I lived in the city (I'm about an hour outside NYC) so much to do...I love it!!
Just know you are not alone, we are all here with you. Hugs
If the grass is greener on the other side....water your own lawn.
Believe it or not, some men are quite intimidated by awesomeness in women. I keep telling myself that the same is true of some women.
That's the problem: We're just too fucking cool!
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous
This is too funny lol I am sorry you feel like this but I do understand . Dealing with the rejections or my perceived rejections is just a constant blow to the already screwed up ego. My therapist says I need to stop comparing the woman I meet to my ex. She says I need to look for more depth and values , but my ex was a real knockout and we were together for 19 years since high school , sometimes I think maybe I am a shallow ass--- but there has to be some physical attraction? I will keep on keeping on I guess . Good luck to you , I know exactly how you feel.
I think that's the problem, we're just too awesome!!
I have noticed, that the 'needier' some people are, the easier it is for them to date - but I don't want that because I'm not needy! My life is awesome as is, I don't need someone to validate it. I do think it's easier for women and men at times to date someone that they believe 'needs' them. It's 'easier' and risks less rejection, helping to fuel that confidence, ya know? So I do believe that some people are just intimidated by others that are fully independent and confident on their own.
Not saying that's always the case when things don't work out for me, but of course I would LIKE to believe that
And you're right Thefly599, you have to have some kind of physical attraction. It won't take you all the way, there certainly has to be some depth, but you can't fake being attracted to someone! If it's not there, it's just not there. That's a problem I have too, I'm just not that attracted to many people.. I'm either too picky, or asexual. Oh well!
I have always been extremely independent and my career is on fire, I have financial stability and I definitely think I turn off men because I don't "need" them. I watch a girl I work with out meeting guys and she seems to have them lining up for her! Single mom, needy, etc... the guys just fall at her feet, the most recent knew her two days and is taking her on a huge trip to Cuba!!
But you know what the difference is? That is not me. I am a strong person, opinionated at times and I can hold my own. I am not ashamed of that. I already lost who I was in my marriage by conforming to what I thought he wanted in a woman (that didn't work too well LOL). Now that I am getting back to who I really am I am not willing to give myself up. I either need a man who accepts me as I am or I will stay single forever. I do feel lonely and wish I had that companionship but I also have an awesome network of great friends, my coworkers feel like family, I have a great family and I do full filling volunteer work. My life certainly is far from empty. My hopes is that in the right time the right person will come into my life to be my partner. I now live by my signature "and this, above all, to thine own self be true"
"And this above all else, to thine own self be true"
I kid you not, every single flipping car I saw on Saturday had a couple in it. It was like I was being taunted.
"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."
I absolutely dread the holidays because I'll spend them completely alone. Ugh.
There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox
Me too. I think we're getting into that time of year, unfortunately. But we're all here for you, and for each other. Keep posting! We're here and listening and ALL of us know exactly how you feel.
Some of us are feeling the same as you, and even better, some of us have been here and gotten beyond it.