Topic: Dear Wasband, (vent)
Member # 32265
| Posted: 4:42 PM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013|
Posts: 626 | Registered: May 2011
Member # 6908
| Posted: 5:19 PM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013|
My take? He's been thinking about this....how it is soooooooooo unfair to him. He really had no way of approaching you with this but if it he did it right at the time where you are the weakest? He might just get away with it.
Selfish people can't help it. Its been rolling around in his head and GD it he wanted it changed and he had to blurt it out. Couldn't keep that self entitlement inside for one more minute.
How dare you screw that up by being mad about it?
Posts: 5652 | Registered: Apr 2005 | From: florida
Member # 30346
| Posted: 7:32 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013|
me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings
Posts: 4144 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Member # 40726
| Posted: 7:34 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013|
First - I'm so sorry about your mom. I'm very close to my mom so I understand.
He's a shit heel mother fuc@er!! With lousy timing. Callus hearted, stupid asshole.
Me: 48- BW
Him: 45-WH-chronic cheater, PA and EA
Current Her: Mid to late 30's fatassed, no necked, troglodyte
D Day: August 23, 2013
Separated: August 23, 2013
Posts: 52 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Michigan
Member # 33226
| Posted: 11:53 AM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
Thank you all so much. I don't know why I was taken by surprise on Saturday. My defenses were obviously down. I'm frayed to the breaking point with everything that's going on.
I have had to talk to wasband twice since that blow up - when DD ended up in the hospital the next day with a panic attack, and when DS ended up in the ER yesterday after getting hurt at work. For the record, both kids are ok.
Both times, I was able to maintain control and keep the conversations brief. Not sure I would have been able to pull that off if I were face to face with him, however.
I'm doubling down on my self-care, since the stress is showing no sign of letting up. And the one thing I can count on with wasband is that he will only add to that stress level. Shields firmly in place.
You can call me NIK
"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
Posts: 25362 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 31349
| Posted: 1:01 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown
Posts: 17335 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 17460
| Posted: 1:03 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013|
Just saw this.
Take care of yourself, hon.
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!
Posts: 21051 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
|Topic Posts: 47|