I dont' feel bullied at all. I just do not want to allow myself to have this make me any more bitter than I already have been in the past. I have a lot to be thankful for in my life. It feels like it right now, but I don't want this to consume me.
I know I have a long way to go, and I appreciate all the input, seriously! I just can't make a decision in 3 weeks about the rest of my life and my children's life. I want to give myself time to heal, and the help all of you give is invaluable! Thank you!! We newbies are all raw right now and more sensitive to the entire world, I guess, also.
From what I have read a lot of the W's acted exactly like my WW, so I knew it was a matter of time after the A shut down that I would start to see glimpses of the woman I loved so much and that loved me as much at one time.
With each passing day I see more and more of her return, and the sadness in her face is heartbreaking.
I agree with angelsky, I was in a bad place in our marriage. Hard to get along with, cranky, living independent from my WW, not showing her any care. I am not responsible for the affair, but I am responsible for making her miserable. She should have suggested marriage counseling instead of the affair, anything but that. I didn't have the affair and I was in the same marriage. But, I do want to heal and keep my marriage. I will do everything in my power to make it happen. If it doesn't work, then I leave.
I am no expert, only 3 month post, but reading, posting, reading, posting has made me wise to the worst thing that has ever happened to me!