Oh gosh, this did go quickly didn't it.
Too much of a whirlwind.
And what is it with all these late 40 somethings and early 50 somethings anyway? What? Do they think, gosh, I only have 30 more years left - I gotta go out with a bang???
Really weird. They want to start over at 50? God, me, I have no choice - it was brought upon me, like you, only different, but still - this was all brought to us, we had no choice, our choice is only how we handle the situation we were given.
Does he really think life will be a slice of apple pie at his age with a new woman? So weird, really. I know, who cares, but I"m just like, wouldn't it be a lot easier in your 30's???
As far as your daughters, I do believe in telling them the truth. Regarding the truth - even if they are young, being lied to is so hurtful. If you lie to them they will feel betrayed by you. When you divorce or at least very close to the end date, please tell them that daddy left to be with another woman. Just because they are children does not mean they do not deserve respect and the truth. They don't need the gory details, of course, but the deserve the respect of the truth. When they are older, if they want to know, then they all deserve to know the dirty details. Do not teach them now or ever that lying, even to "make people feel better" is ever the better choice. They are your blood, you are their Mommy and they need the truth - always.
I'm so glad you are so strong. You really have a good head on your shoulders. Unlike WH and POS other woman.
Teach your girls to take care of themselves. Get excellent grades. Learn a trade or two. Something math, science, computers or health for one thing. They have to never be in a situation where they are married, with daughters, and husband ups and leaves and them wondering how they are going to pay the bills. They, themselves, will pay the bills and F the cheaters.