Why does it have to be so tough??
Says he feels like he is in prison, misses his freedom
Well that's just too damn bad for him. He's the one the screwed up so he needs to start doing the hard work needed to fix this. R'ing will never happen with one person working on it, never!
You're young, you have your whole life ahead of you. There is nothing wrong with seeking advice from an attorney to know where you stand. There's power in knowledge. Then you'll be able to make a better decision about what you want for yourself and your life.
In the meantime, I would start working the 180.
Sending (((HUGS))) and strength your way.
D-Day June 12th 2008, D-Day #2 Sept 28th
D-Day #3 Feb 15th & 16th 2010, D-Day #4 Nov 29th 2010
Your H is stressed and can't work now. Man I feel so bad for him
You have two choices.
Sit around and wait for him to pull his head out of his ass
Get moving and make yourself the healthiest, happiest Trudi you can be.
Ultimately all you can count on, all you can control is YOU. Whatever he will do is yet to be seen, but don't waste your life waiting for him to get it.
Sometimes I feel this is just too hard and I should, at this point in my life (I am 41) just move on and maybe eventually find someone that truly appreciates me.......
It is too hard when only 1 person is doing the work. I would suggest you move on and work on YOU appreciating yourself. You don't need another man to do that. Make yourself whole and be happy with you. What comes down the road will come...your husband will get up off his ass and do the work, or he won't...but by that time you will be so far down the road it probably won't matter.
Make your life count, don't lose it on what ifs and maybes.
My WH said his involvement in ashleymadison.com was just a joke between friends. I told him I disagreed and thought he did that dark and devious act on his own. I asked him to tell me who was involved if it was a "group" joke. He said he would never want to incriminate anyone else. Wouldn't want them to have to "go thru what he goes thru". Poor baby. Such a victim.
Have at it, dude. I'm nobody's backup plan.
[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 2:01 PM, October 28th (Monday)]
I'm getting my ducks in order. Ill give him a little more time but if I don't start seeing the changes he's promised I'm gone.
I refuse to subject myself or my children to a life of misery. My parents are currently looking for a place near them that I can afford, not we, me.
I'm not too optimistic at this point.
I agree you're still young, you still have a chance for happiness with someone who deserves you. Wether its with him or someone else. Good luck with it all!