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User Topic: almost 6 months and I still want to send the OW hate mail
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My negative thoughts went away after I realized it was not about the AP, -it was all about my WS. Had it not been this particular AP, another AP would just have come along. Think about it, often WSs have multiple APs. The fantasy wears off and a WS finds another AP, and another, until they are caught. I don't know you but odds are only a fantasy is better than you.

[This message edited by still-living at 4:33 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)]

WW 47 FOO Issues
DDay 11/09 Coworker
High School Sweethearts
Married 06/91
8 months TT
Sons 19 and 14
Recovery is constructing a pyramid of inference from which to see clearer.
The process involves using the reflexive loop.

Posts: 779 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Ches
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Default  Posted: 11:03 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It hasn't gone away for me and I'm 13 months out. MOW has sent me 4 FB messages since DDay and I have never once replied because I believe crickets is really the best avenue to take. But it was sooooo hard not to respond to her provoking messages.. especially the first from DDay where she tells me my WH is "in love with her" even though he just ended it with her by telling her he wasn't leaving me.. lucky for him he told me about the A just hours before I saw the first message.

[This message edited by LadyLove at 11:07 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)]

BW - 46 (me)
WH - 48 Ladyslove
Don't know if I can live with it.

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Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In our case there has been no contact from the OW. She dropped WH as soon as I found out. On DDay I tricked her into calling his phone at 2 am and had a conversation with her where she told me in no uncertain terms that she was sorry and that she was not in love with him.

The thing is - I believe - that this is just her standard operating procedure. Picking up men like toys and then discarding them when it gets complicated. I think that she actually gets a charge off it. There was NO emotional component to their relationship. She never asked anything about his relationship with me and he never shared anything. It was all about getting drunk, getting high, and getting fucked.

My fantasies about contacting her are because I believe she never gives US a single thought. EVER. He is no longer useful to her so she has just added some more studs (married or not) to her stable.

Thank you for listening to my morning vent... :)

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