Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: Hurtlostempty (45065)

Divorce/Separation Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: He's still waiting for my apology...
Housefulloflove
♀ Member
Member # 38458
Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"When are you going to apologize for the horrible things YOU did?"

I don't know Ex, why don't you hold your breath until I do!

For the record, his most recent list of "horrible" things I did is calling him "evil" once and a "monster" twice when he refused to stop cheating on me. I also kept him up arguing with him about his girlfriend during his EA and PA. Oh and my favorite...I treated him like he was cheating BEFORE he actually had sex with her! It's not cheating if there isn't a penis involved right? The fact that by the time I found out she existed they had already kissed is totally irrelevant because it goes against the point he is feebly trying to make.


But he's right..I really do need to apologize.

"Dear Self,

I'm so sorry you stayed 10 years with this possibly soulless creature. I'm so very sorry that those horrible feelings of dread felt from day one were ignored. I am particularly apologetic that after the first date with him when you told your mother that you weren't interested in a second date that I convinced you that you should give him a second try because he's such a "good guy." I'm so sorry it took this many years to learn the difference between a "good guy" and a silent jackass with a paycheck but now I know.

I will work hard to learn whatever I need to learn to ensure that I never put you in another situation like this again with a "man" like that.

Sincerely,
Me"

[This message edited by Housefulloflove at 8:13 PM, October 28th (Monday)]


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
Gemini71
♀ Member
Member # 40115
Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I second that he should hold his breath while waiting.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1797 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
PurpleRose
♀ Member
Member # 33129
Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Or he can hop on the flying pigs outside while he waits.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3605 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Pass
♂ Member
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 10:22 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

House, you don't owe yourself any apologies either. You were trusting, hopeful, and in love. Those are all good things; next time you'll just be a little more wary as well. You'll believe the red flags.

But dude, Asshat is the only one who should be apologizing. Won't happen, of course.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1988 | Registered: Jan 2013
gonnabe2016
♀ Member
Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 12:17 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, ffs.
"When are you going to apologize for the horrible things YOU did?"

BTDT. Many times. Fuck him.

Your apology to YOURSELF is *spot on*.

Lesson learned.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8031 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
tesla
♀ Member
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 6:21 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*shaking head*
what a stupid mother fucker.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4655 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
SBB
♀ Member
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 6:42 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know Ex, why don't you hold your breath until I do!


Hil-arious!!

The sad clown likes to remind me that 'we did this'. I don't remember dipping my wick into any manky, slutty glory hole that was willing to tolerate 2 minute boring sex (I started looking at the clock ).


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5576 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Housefulloflove
♀ Member
Member # 38458
Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The sad part is that he is totally convinced that everything he says and does makes perfect sense, even if he has to contradict himself in the very next sentence. That's narcissism for you.

The shit that comes out of his mouth is so stupid I get second-hand embarrassment for him when I repeat it to other people. Apparently he wanted to be free to live his life in the most idiotic way possible and he is certainly doing that.

SBB- I've gotten the "we did this" bull as well. When I used to waste my time responding it all instantly became "the past" and therefore irrelevant to what is going on now. Nevermind that he was just using "the past" to prove a point. He doesn't get that I have hopped off that merry go 'round from hell for good.


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
StillLivin
♀ Member
Member # 40229
Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*shaking head*
what a stupid mother fucker.

You gotta love tesla's straight to the point jargon.

Bwahahahahaha, yeah have him hold his breath!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2263 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
woundedby2
♀ Member
Member # 18522
Default  Posted: 2:03 AM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I saw this on Pinterest tonight and thought of this thread...


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7818 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
SBB
♀ Member
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 3:05 AM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5576 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Topic Posts: 11

Return to Forum: Divorce/Separation Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.