[This message edited by Janne at 11:27 AM, October 29th (Tuesday)]
Please, I'm certainly not judging you. I'm honestly wondering why that would have been agreed to.
Thank you, and again, I mean no offense and I'm not judging.
What do you want to do? The problem with it happening a second time, is they can't plead ignorance - they know they are hurting you and they choose it anyway.
Now it's your decision - do you want to stay with a cheater? It's obvious that the cheating is more important than his marriage - put it to the test.
why did you think it was ok for him to be video sexting as long as 'personal' information was not given?
This is what I was wondering - he obviously has very poor boundaries and was setting him up to fail.
I'm not coming from a place of judgement. Just curious.
You have 2 choices:
1) be honest, call him out on his bullshit
2) don't say a word, allow him to dig his hole deeper and then call him on his shit.
But - the second option is a slippery slope to a PA if it hasn't gotten there already.
Why are WS such douchebags - especially when they're given the gift of R?
**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**
But we all make mistakes.
From here on out, focus on what you need, not what he wants. Do you *want* to live with active addiction? If not, then erect boundaries.
Recoverynation.com is helpful for spouses of addicts. Making use of the drug of choice okay is not. He will escalate, if he has not already. This may put you at physical and financial risk-- not to mention emotional risk.
It's time to protect yourself from the fallout. It is NOT okay to bring others, even "virtual" strangers into your marriage.
It is harming you both.
Millions of hugs to you.
[This message edited by solus sto at 1:34 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)]
1. You and he get into counseling asap and try to make a better marriage;
2. You let him continue to disrespect you, possible bring home diseases and endanger your life;
3. You confront him and tell him that this is not acceptable;
4. You just put up with it till you are old and gray and his dick shrivels and he can't screw around any more.
You & your kids deserve better than this. If you feel there is absolutely no other way out.....how about get rid of the computer? That would definitely show him your feelings about the issue & show him you are serious?!?!?
Funny that the keylogger quit working a month ago & then low & behold, he is up to his old tricks right after.....hmmmm? Just a thought for you about it.
Hugs to you.
Mine did not change.
[This message edited by Janne at 2:35 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)]