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User Topic: So I have decided enough is enough
confused52204
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Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is my 2nd time here. Divorced my first husband. I have a 6 yo d from that marriage. Now this time I just baught a house w my bf about 1 yr ago. A week later I found put he was post ads on craigslist for 2 years of our 3 yr relationship. At that time I decided to make it work. We tried for about a year. I just can't move on from it. He was posting for both men and women. I read each post thr ur burned into my brain. At the last lie I told him I was done. I will give him back the downpayment he put into the house. He is not accepting this at all. Now il having 2nd thoughts about what to do. Had this happened to anyone?

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fuck him.

He has been lying for a very long time. You have known this. I think it's why you have been in limbo. That, and I think this was truly a dealbreaker for you. And that's ok.

Don't get hoovered back in. Read the 180. Detach. be strong...you *can* do this!


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: R? I don't know..ask me tomorrow..it changes rapidly.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 6652 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMGosh I'm soooo sorry!
(((confused)))
I don't know what else to say.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB

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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ooops techology double posted.

[This message edited by StillLivin at 2:08 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)]


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB

Posts: 1784 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
confused52204
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Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Has anyone's WS begged and pleaded for a new beginning after u hit them w the " we r over" card.

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup. My Wxh begged me 18 months after our divorce was final. I walked away from him lying in my driveway sobbing.

My thought is that he had many many chances to do right by me, and he didn't. He has now found religion because I'm "done"? Fuck him - he doesn't get to decide when I'm done. I do.

In your case, he has had a year to be a stand up guy and treat you like you deserve to be treated. It's a control thing on his part. He's just trying to control you and the situation.

I'm sorry.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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confused52204
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's the way I c it! He has repeat lied to me. Now since I'm done he will do anything. When he should have done anything a year ago to not get us to this point. Now I feel guilty....

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confused52204
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did u still love ur WS when u decided to make the jump to move on e ur life? I guess that's where I'm stuck. I love him so much but hate him so much for doing this. Life isn't that difficult is it ? I mean life was so bad for him that he picked craigslist adds over me? Wtf! Half his stuff is packed. Guess we r halfway dine and now I'm sad...all while he is texting me daily trying to make me c how much he loves me and will never hurt me..,at times its convincing.....:(

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confused52204
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Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did u still love ur WS when u decided to make the jump to move on e ur life? I guess that's where I'm stuck. I love him so much but hate him so much for doing this. Life isn't that difficult is it ? I mean life was so bad for him that he picked craigslist adds over me? Wtf! Half his stuff is packed. Guess we r halfway dine and now I'm sad...all while he is texting me daily trying to make me c how much he loves me and will never hurt me..,at times its convincing.....:(

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

..all while he is texting me daily trying to make me c how much he loves me and will never hurt me.
Words are cheap. Absolutely worthless. Especially when they are such clear lies. He will never hurt you? What the hell does he think he's been doing?

Actions, confused. Actions over time. But you know that already, right? ((((hugs))))


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


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confused52204
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Default  Posted: 1:19 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping....trying to find words of wisdom...

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Kierst13
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He has had a year to get his crap together and be the man you need him to be. He is manipulating you to get his way; don't fall for it.


Story in my profile
He lied, I gave the gift of R
He became the model remorseful WS...all while lying and seeing her
Am I done? Yes I am!

Posts: 346 | Registered: May 2013
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I did still love my Wxh when I made the decision to walk away and be done with him.

My loving him was never the issue.

I decided that I also had to love myself.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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