The parenting coordinator is NOT CHEAP. I can't afford the retainer, I can't afford the hourly rate. I can't afford him. Period.
I don't know what I'm supposed to do. How do I pay when I don't have the money?
What do I tell this guy?
I've never even heard of such a thing. Can't he pay for the coordinator?
Did you try Starbucks - just for the benefits. I understand that they offer benefits at 23 hrs? It would be something?
That's what I'm thinking that I might have to do to, for health insurance. Once D is final I too am F'd - as the insurance through my employer (small company) is close to 700 a month - just for me!!!
All of it stinks.. But just hang in there. Someone's got to be looking out for you, something will come through, somehow - this too shall pass!
When a person shows you who they are, believe them - Maya Angelou
I can't afford the retainer, I can't afford the hourly rate. I can't afford him. Period.
I've never heard of a parenting co-ordinator. I've just googled it and I am shocked that such an essential service is expensive. Shocked.
Surely you're not the only one in this boat. Surely they have some sort of payment plan option or something like that. Surely.
Did you request the PC or did the whacko?
Your wording says
Part of my final decree will be that we have to use a parenting coordinator
"will be", does that mean it's not final yet? Can you still change it? Ugh, what a hard situation to be in. Wish I could be more helpful.
I've never heard of this parental coordinator either. And after reading a bit about it, I'm not sure what my opinion of it is.
It can either be very, very helpful for you: **http://www.parentingcoordinationcentral.com/PC_Guidelines_for_Care.html**
Or it could end up being a nightmare.....along the lines of the article that Gemini posted about. I personally found the article to be written in a highly inflammatory fashion, but there were some valid points made.
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
I sometimes feel like I've woken up in a Twilight Zone nightmare where things aren't what they seem.
If the judge or evaluator tries to tell you that it's not "reasonable" to hire a coodinator for that little money, you respond that it's not reasonable to mandate that you spend more than you can afford on this service.
Ironically it sounds like your STBX will back you up on setting a maximum out-of-pocket on this.
There is a whole culture of professional family court people that I didn't know about. All with the power to utterly destroy your family, and you can be compelled to involve them in your life.
I don't have a job. I am looking, but I have not had any luck and it's been a year.
The job market and job hunting is not what it used to be. I don't know how people get jobs these days. I am on the list with many recruiters, agencies, and so forth. I tell everyone I know I am looking. I carry a resume. I'm on linked-in, career-builder, monster, indeed, and Lord knows how many others. I call around to people I know who have businesses and offer to work for them for free simply to get experience on my resume so that I don't look like a total loser to prospective employers. I've worked with several professionals to get my resume sparkling. I volunteer in the community and at church so I can get references.
And finally, childcare costs $$$. Asking STBX to be the babysitter to save me $$$ is not an option. Childcare for three children, in some cases, costs me as much or more than the jobs I'm applying for.
None of the above helps me figure out how the hell to pay for a parenting coordinator. $1,000 retainer, $180 an hour billed in 15-minute increments, 4.5 hours of meeting time eating at that just to get acquainted and oriented. Not to mention the logistics of how to fit in all of those hours if I'm working multiple part-time jobs. Oh, and I have to meet with him AND my perverted STBX/will be EX at that point together. Sit in the same room with him. Next to him. Sit in the same room with the man who abused me for 15 years, terrorized the children & urinated on me against my will, and try to have a reasonable, calm conversation with him in the best interests of the children.
Whatever... It never ends...
STBX is going to get hundreds of thousands of dollars, I get the house.