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tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry it's so long -- but do be sure to read the very end.

First-- thank you to everyone that sent me mojo, well wishes, and good thoughts. I re-read that thread several times in the court parking lot before going inside. I needed to feel like there were people in my corner because I was very nervous. Thank you.

I was waiting outside the courtroom on the one freaking bench in the lobby. Of course ex-shat comes up with stripper-whore.

Yes, he brought stripper whore.

Now, I would love for you all to get this mental image: I am dressed professionally - pencil skirt, heels, my favorite shade of blue button up fitted shirt. Her bleach bottle blond hair is teased out..she's in tight jeans and tight top...her make-up is all sorts of whore. She looks like white trash. He has a pair of jeans on with a rip in the ass pocket. He's wearing a black, long-sleeved t-shirt. I cannot imagine that the judge's subconcious was not informed by this picture.

Anyway, these fuckers sit down on the bench too. Sigh.

My lawyer arrives a couple of minutes later and she takes me to a conference room. Her face is clearly baffled that he is actually showing up and that he is actually going to attempt to present an argument.

Ok, so we go into the courtroom and the court recorder (reporter?) has to tell stripper whore to go sit back in the gallery since she is not a party to the case. Poor girl was confused as to how to get through the swinging gate. Court recorder's face was like, OMG

Anyway, I get to testify. Pretty straight forward...L asks me leading questions so the answer is just, "Yes."

And then ex-shat gets a chance to ask me questions. "Oh my fucking god," I was thinking to myself, and then I visualized all of you sitting around stripper whore saying, "FTG and the stripper-whore he rode in on."

He starts asking me about deposits made before our D decree. My lawyer objects...he tries two more times to do this. My lawyer objects again. The judge has to explain to him that this hearing is governed by the orders in the decree...anything before the decree has NO BEARING on this case. This would become a recurring theme for the next fucking hour.

So then this fucker starts asking me about child support deposits he made after the decree but before he had CS through the state set up. He was trying to get me to agree that those deposits were pre-payment of the tax refund
Yeah, nothing there buddy.
Then he starts trying to get me to agree that he had the intent to pay me and clear his debts.
I actually had no idea what to say to this. So the two times he was trying to get me to say this, I said, "You said you would pay me."

At that point, my L got to question me again and she entered into evidence the text from April 2013 (well after these CS deposits he claims were pre-payments of the refund) where he says that he is about to bring to balance Teslet's CS (he was behind by a few months at that point) and pay me 1/2 the tax refund.

Ex-shat claims this text is out of context and part of a larger dialogue The judge cuts him off and asks if he has any more questions for me. He says no and then he takes the stand.

He tries again to bring up the deposits BEFORE the D...at least 2 or 3 more times this happens. He also said that we were divorced in Sept of 2012...it was actually on his birthday in November of 2012. The judge actually takes a few minutes to point out the true date of the D. The court recorder looks at me like, "oh my fucking god."

The judge then asks if he has anything else to add. He starts pontificating how he said he would never leave me 'languishing.' That he always pays his debts. That even when this came up that he offered to give me a couple of thousand dollars if I needed it, that I just had to call him.

There were a lot of other strange, contradictory, non-sensical statements. I can't remember them at this point...the ones above were the ones that stuck out to me.

Judge says he's taking it under advisement and will send his decision. L told me not to worry about that...she says that often times a judge will do this when one of the parties is unrepresented and they are concerned about the reaction to an immediate decision.

I'm pretty damn sure that this is falling my way.

My brother just called me, he said out of curiosity he checked stripper whore's facebook. Ex-shat proposed to her this weekend. She's got a pretty little ring. She posted pictures of my son with the caption, "My future step-son."

I can't fucking believe that he actually proposed to her


This dude is the stupidest mother fucker alive.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ex-shat proposed to her this weekend. She's got a pretty little ring. She posted pictures of my son with the caption, "My future step-son."

OHMYFUCKINGGOD!

I wish them every last drop of happiness they deserve.

You have SO got this, tesla. Holy cats, he's an idjit.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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JessicaFL127
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Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad it's over, Tesla. You'll be fine.


BW,32
divorced for 6 years
mom to two awesome boys,10 and 9

"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC

"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies"


Posts: 1244 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Missouri
sleepless34
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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you Tesla! Sounds like you did great. I can't believe you have the self control to come face to face with stripper whore at your own divorce hearing and not have the urge to rip her head off. Or maybe his. They sound like a real class act! Karma is that they have eachother, yuck!


Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

Posts: 443 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell
Reality
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Priceless. Absolutely priceless, Tesla. I love the image of classy you against the train wreck the two of them represented.

When my XWH protested the hard facts of the courtroom, the judge had no patience. I'll never forget the scorn of the judge and how great it was to watch.

Applause for you, jeers for X and Co.


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Thefly559
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Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yes !!! he does not sound like the sharpest tool in the shed. That is actually better for you. It sounds like court went well from what I hear. good for you. I have mine tomorrow. It is extremely nerve racking. As far as him proposing to a stripper, I know it hurts and I am sorry , but you know how that story will end!!!! stay strong and be well.


"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

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Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I bet he feels really impressed with his performance in court. Idiots like him live in a parallel universe that should be named "Opposite World".

The timing of the proposal is a coincidence I'm sure. He would never use her in a pathetic attempt to get back at you. Nooo..not a stand-up guy like that!

If he had a working brain he'd realize that every single move he has made has shown how deep his rottenness goes.


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

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hathnofury
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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been following your story a looooonngg time. I remember when you posted about the "tax refund prepayments" when they happened and how you knew it was going to come to this some day. I have always admired how you always have held your head up and taken the high road, and come back here to tell us how you really feel through all of this.

Judge says he's taking it under advisement and will send his decision. L told me not to worry about that...she says that often times a judge will do this when one of the parties is unrepresented and they are concerned about the reaction to an immediate decision.

Aw, snap. That and the fact he brought a date to the court room who couldn't figure out a swinging door. Yeah, I'd be worried about the reaction too if I were the judge. You SO got this!

Congratulations! You did awesome!


BS 43, SAWH 38. M 15years, together 17. Body count in the triple digits. Both in recovery, trying to R.
Three kids under age 11.

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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She posted pictures of my son with the caption, "My future step-son."

Oh my God!


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macakipa
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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He starts pontificating how he said he would never leave me 'languishing.' That he always pays his debts. That even when this came up that he offered to give me a couple of thousand dollars if I needed it, that I just had to call him.

He admits this, and yet will not catch up with what is owed? Yep. You have this in the bag.

Ex-shat proposed to her this weekend. She's got a pretty little ring. She posted pictures of my son with the caption, "My future step-son."

It is good that you can laugh at this turn of events. I know that in some ways, especially the "future step-son" part, this may hurt if not, makes you a bit angry. Either way, know that you are the bestest mommy in the world.

tesla, I have followed your journey since you joined SI. You have shown admirable strength, wisdom and maturity.

Raising my glass to you...and FTG!


M -25 years, T - 31 years, 4 children
Dday October 8, 2011 - Multiple PAs and ONs
Divorced 1-8-13
"When you give a lot of importance to someone in your life, you lose your importance in their life."

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17488 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good grief. Is it because of Halloween? Does the time of year have some mystical sway over all of these ex-shats who have suddenly gone bonkers!?!?

Tesla, sounds like you did good, and your ex happily and stupidly dug his own grave (to continue with the Halloween theme). I can't believe he proposed to Half a Brain Cell; maybe if they get married, they can put their two halves together to make... uh... wait, that's probably too difficult a math question for them.

Send me some leftover legal mojo if you have any to spare; I'm hoping to get my XWH in line by way of my attorney if necessary!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You rock!!!


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6525 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FTG! What a total tool. Defies the logic of all that is natural.

(((tesla)))

Hope the adrenalin crash comes at bedtime.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love it Tesla. Just love it. Cheers to you and continued strength.


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

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Lyonesse
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't fucking believe that he actually proposed to her
What a romantic story! I am trying to cast the film version in my head. I love the minor character of the court reporter - you tell it so vividly.

You did excellently, although it was a bit like running a thoroughbred against two sloths.

Congratulations! I hope the judge hands down his decision soon.


Me: BS, 40's.

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So he had money to buy her a ring, but not enough to get decent pants for court?

I'm glad it went your way.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 9:19 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)]


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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love hearing about your ex-shat. It's almost as satisfying I imagine watching a train crash into a fuel tanker would be. What a mess that guy is.

I almost feel badly for stripper whore. She sounds like she's about as smart as the dumber of my two dogs.


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Gr8Lady
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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like it went great. Isn't the high road a wonderful road to take.

Telet will be so proud of you.
We sure are!


BS: Me (63yo)
FWH: HIM (65yo) serial infidelities over past 35 years
OW: Many, most recent 1/2 his age
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2012 when I presented evidence, plus LTA with his friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over past year
So done,

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been waiting all day for this update, and you did not disappoint. Even better than expected. Great job -- you are amazing!

I wish they could award punitive damages in family court because I'm sure you'd be getting some for having to put up with him!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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