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User Topic: Its finally GONE!
shatteredheart7
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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't been on here in a few days, mainly because I have found that a lot of the time reading other peoples stories makes me trigger.

Anywho, a while back I posted asking if ya'll thought I should make him sell his truck because she use to give him blow jobs in it. Well, we have been working on getting it sold and finding a new truck. I am so happy to say that we have finally found a truck and decided the hell with trying to sell his. SO, tomorrow he is taking his truck in to the dealership and trading it in on a Chevy silverado crew cab 4x4 2500HD! Sweet ass truck! I have tried all evening to talk him into letting me have the truck and him taking my car. But right now I am just so happy that damn whore house on wheels is going to be gone gone gone! I will never have to look at it again! I feel like dancing while singing at the top of my lungs!!!


Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

Posts: 240 | Registered: Jul 2013
TheAmazingWondertwin
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Member # 40769
Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

dance dance dance!!! Congratulations!!


Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 39
Him- FWS
14 years- 2 middle school children
DDay- 07-24-2013
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
Avalanche of Truth on November 14, 2013
Length of A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC

Posts: 474 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
Tred
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Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 7:05 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's great! I'm happy for you - I get it. I really do


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3842 | Registered: Dec 2011
ILINIA
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Member # 39836
Default  Posted: 7:36 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Woohoo! Congrats that is huge!


Entering R slowly and cautiously...

Posts: 441 | Registered: Jul 2013
SecondHelping
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Member # 36796
Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very nice truck. I have one. Hope you are getting the Duramax diesel.


D-Day 1: Feb 1990 (2 yrs into M, kissing and a hickey)
D-Day 2: 3 Sep 2012 (3 month EA/3 week PA)
BS 49- Me, fWW 43- Her (Amibroken)
OP- Deputy Chief of Police from the town next to us! (Age 37)
Married 25 Years, Together 28
3 Kids (17, 14, 11)

Posts: 484 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Delmarva
maxandsen
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Member # 37173
Default  Posted: 1:50 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats on getting rid of the rolling trigger!!!

Make some great new memories in the new truck


Me: 40
FWH: 51
Married 12 years
DDay: Jan 2012
A: One year
S: 6 weeks before he pulled his head out
R: March 2012
On the bumpy road to happy

Posts: 64 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Currently the Middle East
Jacobell
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Member # 37284
Default  Posted: 1:53 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dance your heart out


Me - BW (35)
Him - WH 37)
D-Day 10/27/2012
2 beautiful, innocent young children
Together 10 years, Married 2 years

Posts: 48 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Jacobell
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 6:19 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have one of those trucks too!


Okay, I don't......but wish I did!!!!


What a great day for you guys!!!!


My wife's AP drives a very common truck for this area.....it very much is a reminder to me of her dreadful decisions and actions. But my reactions to it have changed over time.....rage, anger, vomit, disgust, sad, almost no reaction. She has not shared how she reacts to her seeing similar trucks ....but I bet she has one. She memorized his plate number because it is such a common color make and model......she never memorized my truck plate number, hardly remembers my trucks of the past...........but I digress.

To my knowledge she never gave him head in it....never had sex in it.....or in her car either.

I believe I would have given her car to the first homeless guy I saw had it had the same ties to her A as his truck had to his A. Kudos to being able to engage your mind long enough to override your heart...and keep your financial stress lower by doing so!

I would give away every dime we have to never have had adultery invited into our M.

You go girl!!!! Road trip soon!!!! And drive that rig.....a pretty girl driving a big truck is so cool!!!!!

God help us all.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 7:02 AM, October 31st (Thursday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3587 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Sadwife222
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Default  Posted: 6:46 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! I know how you feel. We are selling my WH's dream house because he brought her here. Small price to pay for the pain inflicted, IMO.


Me BW, Him WH
DD #1, caught 4/12/13
DD #2, tells me the whole truth, 5/21/13
DD #3, TT until 8/9/13 then full disclosure w/timeline
DD #4, 8/26/13, OW texts me more info, he tells me the whole truth
DD # 5, 9/11/13, he tells me the whole truth??

Posts: 130 | Registered: Jul 2013
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wife's AP owns a second house in the country....this is where the EA went to the PA. He still owns it....is reported to be on to another woman...suspect that house smells like sex once again. I am pretty sure his wife doesn't know he uses this as his love shack as when I met with her her husbands A with my wife was an EA at that time.

That is their journey....mine is tough enough as-is.

Just chimed in cause of sad wife's house selling.

Yep, our house would be sold to the first reasonable offer had that been the case for us....kinda glad we live in town....had we lived in a remote location I am pretty sure our bedroom would have been fair game.....wedding rings never came off their fingers as there fingers enjoyed each other.

God help us all.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3587 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
shatteredheart7
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Member # 39734
Default  Posted: 7:29 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone!

Second helping, unfortunately its not the duramax. I wanted it, pushed for it pretty hard, but he doesn't want a diesel. Since it will be technically his truck, I gave in. But its still a pretty sweet truck.

Blake, I so wanted to just dump his old truck anywhere. Didn't matter where as long as I didn't have to see it. I never really liked it anyway, its a Toyota (sorry to anyone that likes toyota ) I haven't sat in it since I found out. Which has put extra miles on my car, but I just can't. He cleaned it out last night so that it would be ready to drop off this morning. He wanted me to look in it to see if there was anything else that needed done, my answer... Burn the damn seats! And Hell yeah! I will be driving it, every chance I get! I am a country girl, he is a city boy. It fits me better anyway. But seriously, I agree with you 100%, I would give away everything and live in a box under a bridge to never have had to deal with this.


Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

Posts: 240 | Registered: Jul 2013
shatteredheart7
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Member # 39734
Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sadwife, I know how you feel. We bought our house almost 10 yrs ago. It was our dream home. I put so much work and love into it. I personally replaced the carpet and old ceramic tile with hard wood floors, I tore up all the dark woodwork and replaced it with white along with all the doors in the house. I remodeled the kitchen. I did ALL this work myself. I loved our home. He brought her here, to our bed. The bed that I had dreamed about for years before I got it. Into the room that I had surprised him by painting a special way to remind us of the ocean (where he proposed to me) while he was at work one day. We are stuck here, it is not financially possible for us to sell it right now. The home I once loved has become the house I HATE. I have tried redecorating it to try to "take it back". First thing I did was throw out the bed. The day I found out, the bed left. We slept on the floor for a week before the new bed got here. But this is a huge house so it is taking more time than I would like. So far what I have done has helped.

Good luck selling your house! I will never understand what makes them ever think that bringing the AP into our home, our marriage bed, is ok. The betrayal of an A is bad enough but the disrespect of bringing them into our personal "safe" space is on another level.

[This message edited by shatteredheart7 at 7:46 AM, October 31st (Thursday)]


Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

Posts: 240 | Registered: Jul 2013
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