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User Topic: How old was your WS when they cheated?
momoffive
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmmm...

With which OW?

33, 39, 40, 40, 41

Old enough to know better!

And me... I'm a year younger than SAWH.

And ALL the OW were anywhere from 1 to 10 years OLDER than me.

[This message edited by momoffive at 9:13 PM, October 31st (Thursday)]


BW 44, SAWH 45(sorry1)
M24 yrs
DD 23,16,13 DS 21, 19
Dday1-7/3/09 EA OW4
Dday2-9/1/09 PA OW4
Dday3 3/14/10 Farmville sexting, OW3
Dday4 3/13/11 Secret texting, would be OW5-she said no
Dday5 8/2/11 PA 10 years ago OW1, kissing 4 years ago OW2

Posts: 1123 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Pennsylvania
Whalers11
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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It started right before his 37th birthday. OW was 33.

I was 28.


Me: BGF - 33
Together 11+ years - not married, no children.
D-Day: 2/9/2010
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.

Posts: 2252 | Registered: Feb 2010
kickboxer
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Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

28-38


BW - 42 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 13 years, 3 children
DD: 7/13/13
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.

Posts: 248 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Somewhere Out There
caland
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Default  Posted: 11:53 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

37


Me (BS) and fWH, M 16 years
young kids
D-Day 2/22/11, lots of TT, D-day #2 and also came clean with it all 3/2011

Dday #3: 10/2011 I found out he had returned to the OW about 6 months into what I thought was R


Posts: 173 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Illinois
brknwmn
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Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

24 the first time and 29 the second.


Me: 26 BS Him: 29 WH
Together since Dec 2005
officially done 10-30-13

Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you.


Posts: 78 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: United States
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 12:26 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The first time? probably 26 or so.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8829 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Hope2B
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Default  Posted: 2:00 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He woke up stupid at 55 or 56.

He continued to see her for 7 years until he was caught. He turned 64 a couple of months ago.

She was either 38 or 39 when he started seeing her, and she always needed to "borrow" money after sex.

[This message edited by Hope2B at 2:00 AM, November 1st (Friday)]


Me: early 60s
Him: 65 yrs old, LTA w/a pro$titute
Married since 1980, no children
DDay: Feb. 25, 2013
Trickle Truth Days: Sept 10, 11, 13, 15 (2013)
His affair--says it was only 8 times 1x/mo, then found out it was 7 YEARS 2-3x/mo or maybe ever 4x/mo

Posts: 359 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: out west/west coast U.S.A.
trudi42
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Default  Posted: 2:27 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Him - 41
Me - 41
OW - 31

(textbook)!


Me: BW (41)
Him: WH (42)
D Day: 22/07/13
~Somewhere between S and R

Posts: 37 | Registered: Sep 2013
atadstressed
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Default  Posted: 2:36 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

39


DDay 21/12/07 & numerous after
false recon until 08/10/10
threw him out 08/10/10
Not quite there yet but mostly happy being single

Don't engage with an idiot. They will bring you down to their level and beat you with experience.


Posts: 90 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: London uk
Scientist
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Default  Posted: 6:23 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WS was 49. Kept it going until she was 54. Who said wisdom comes with age?


Me: 58
WW: 58
M: 36 years
Together 39 years
4 children, 1 grandchild
dday(1) July 2005; dday(2) September 2013

Posts: 46 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: UK
AussieMum
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Default  Posted: 7:05 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was fast approaching 50, his daughter was about to give birth to his first grandchild - he is a walking, talking midlife crisis.


Me 46
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS11 & DD7)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14

Posts: 180 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Thiscantbhapning
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Default  Posted: 7:13 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was 49. She was 28.


BS (Me)-48
WH-49
COW-28
PA-5 1/2 months
D-Day 5-8-11 (Happy Mother's Day to me)
Married 26 years
DS-24
DD-22
Trying to R
"Maybe this thing was a masterpiece till you tore it all up."

Posts: 20 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Texas
sohowamI
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Default  Posted: 7:31 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42;

48, 49, 50, 51, 52, 53, 54, 55, 56, 57, 58, 59.

Makes it all the more poignant, doesn't it? These are the ages he was that he wasted with them all...


WS had two LTAs of 10 years and 12 years; further 8/9 affairs; EAs, 2 OC. Looks horrific but he is fully immersed in trying to find the 'broken.' It's on-going and painful. If there's a blue sky and sunshine, then it's a good day.

Posts: 168 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: UK
Betrayed55
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Default  Posted: 7:33 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was 56

Posts: 145 | Registered: May 2011 | From: New York
RippedSoul
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Him, 44-45; me, 47-48; her, 31-32.


BW: 49; SLAWH: 46; M: 23 yrs
DD#1--11/30/12 (prostitute #1)
DD#2--1/29/13 (AP, escorts #1 & #2)
DD#3--9/13 (trolling MILF site)
DD#4--10/8/13 (EA with AP cont'd)
DD: 20; DD: 18; DS: 16; DS: 14
PS: I've NEVER NOT edited my posts

Posts: 459 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California
dameia
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cheated repeatedly between 21-27. I didn't find out until he was 32.


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.


Posts: 1168 | Registered: Jul 2012
kra127
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WS 39
OW 22


Me 40
WS 39
2 young kids, Married 10 yrs
OW 22, admitted to EA and then TT to PA two weeks later. Also, found out about several "friends".
Dday 10/8/13
Divorcing

Posts: 97 | Registered: Oct 2013
kra127
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WS 39
OW 22
I'll be 40 next month

[This message edited by kra127 at 9:00 PM, November 1st (Friday)]


Me 40
WS 39
2 young kids, Married 10 yrs
OW 22, admitted to EA and then TT to PA two weeks later. Also, found out about several "friends".
Dday 10/8/13
Divorcing

Posts: 97 | Registered: Oct 2013
littlemrsV0813
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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by littlemrsV0813 at 10:45 AM, November 20th (Wednesday)]


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mandan66
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Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She was 46. OM was 53.


Me: 47; WW: 48
2 DS: 9, 14
M:18--T:19
DDay: Jan/13
Divorced and Done!--7/13

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