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User Topic: How old was your WS when they cheated?
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

63 that he admitted to on DDay, then admitted it was a year earlier. After D I got a note that contained wording that I take to be an admission of the 4 to 5 years I had suspected the liar of cheating. Only OW I know about is the fat, ugly slut he M as soon as the D was final. She was 57 when their A started according to xpos.

There were nights over 40 years before that he wasn't home and I wondered about but believed his stories and a medical problem 30 years ago that I have recently read comes 99% of the time from STDs.
There was no one else on my part unless you count "everyone else your partner has had sex with" and I have no idea how many that might be.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2386 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
Blackhair
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WS is 51 old man chatting/ dating a 31 years old girl in Philippine.
Glad we legally separated and I am moving on..... He started a long distance relationship, who knows when she can come to Canada as her first visiting visa was declined! YAHOOO!


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

Posts: 177 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Canada
traditoperanni
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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First time that I know of fwh was 25
last time that I know of he was 62.
Probably every year in between.


Me- BS (63)
Him-WS (63)
M- 42 yrs
dday#1 11/09, Dday #2 10/11 and many since
P.A.'s - too many to count
LTA's too many to count (one for 37 yrs)
escorts etc- way too many to count.
Broken heart- too many times to count.
R- Getting bet

Posts: 429 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
Emotionalhell
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Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My x was 43

Posts: 84 | Registered: Jul 2013
doubleboggy
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She was 22


D Day: 3/31/13

Posts: 107 | Registered: Sep 2013
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

45, in the throes of a mid life crisis


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2242 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

T/J - If a person goes off the rails at 45 or 50 because s/he fears getting 'old', how the hell is s/he going to handle 70????

(Note: I'm facing 70, and I'm happy to be alive, but I faced 26, 30, 35, 40, 45, 50, etc., with joy, too.)


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10378 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Truly
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Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

38,39,40,41...42?...43?...44??
Unfaithful to me with many women. Unfaithful to all of them too, with each other and me.
Unfaithful with ex-women too, so perhaps from 18 yrs old?! Apparently it's not cheating if you're not married
And I thought he was bright!


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


Posts: 257 | Registered: Sep 2013
Want2help
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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WS: 36

AP: 20

ME:


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
OC born 3/08
OC Adopted 2014

Reconciled


Posts: 2312 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: PNW
SadFlower
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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

53-62.
He was 53 when the A began. It lasted 7 years (PA), then went on for 2 more years as an EA.

OW was 44 when the A began.

I was 55.


Me: BW, age 66
Him: WH, age 64
Married 19 years
In R.

D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA


Posts: 408 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Connecticut
Ann124
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Default  Posted: 6:19 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

XWS 48 during his A and OW was 35

Posts: 387 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Back Home ... And feeling Great!!
HurtButHopeful?
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Him: 48
M: 19 years, 4 children

OW: 15 years younger, 4 children younger than ours.

I guess he just wanted a trade-in for a younger model?


Reconciliation means that we both are authentic and vulnerable. I still have my H, and he's a better man than ever!

Posts: 1716 | Registered: Aug 2009
starstruck
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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH--54 to 59
OW--33 to 38
Me--50 to 54
How appropriate!

[This message edited by starstruck at 9:31 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)]


DDay 7/29/2010
Am hoping to reconcile!! Am I crazy or what?
If we all did the things we are capable of doing we would literally astound ourselves-Thomas Edison

Posts: 323 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Pa
jackie89
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Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was 42 - when it started
AP- 22 (and newlywed)

Me


Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


Posts: 509 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was 43 when it started, 44 when we divorced, and just turned 45 last month.

I will turn 45 in February. OW is two years older than him.


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin


Posts: 915 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
cluless
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Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

54 -- same age I am now, maybe I should do the same!


WH 57
BS 55 -- Me!
LTA EA/PA 1-1/2 years.
D-Day 8-12, 2nd D-Day 9-13, 3rd D-Day 10-13 (stopped counting tt still coming in)
Married 17 yrs, together 20.
MC & IC has been a JOKE.

Status: In careful R. Sometimes spinning our wheels and starti


Posts: 166 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oceanside
crestfallen
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Default  Posted: 6:15 AM, November 7th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

51.....

OW.....36


BS-me-57
WH-57
Married 32 years
OW-Mr. Ed ish! Seriously!
DDAY- 2/21/09
TT until 1/10/10
Working on R and doing well!!

Posts: 179 | Registered: Mar 2010
TheTooGoodWife
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Default  Posted: 6:24 AM, November 7th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The A started on WH's 37th b'day, shared their 1st kiss , WH claims it was accidental...yeah right!! Lipless Jabba the Hutt was 30 but looks much older.


Me-BW-46
WH-43
M-13 yrs together 15 yrs, 2 DS 11 & 8
D-Day 20 May '12 WH confessed, PA 4 months 06/2008-10/2008 cOW
His A says nothing about me but everything about him

Posts: 239 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: UK
FeelingSoMuch
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Default  Posted: 6:41 AM, November 7th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

28-29


Me: BH
Her: WW
Together since 2001, married since 2007.
D-day: Feb. 20, 2013.
Broke NC: 2 phone calls since
Today: In MC and IC, attempting R.
It got easier: They no longer work together.

Posts: 509 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Canada
Gman1
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Default  Posted: 7:23 AM, November 7th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

39. Go figure

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