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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Marks 1.5 years that I have been alone.

The day that the XPervert snuck out in the middle of the night and abandoned his own child was the anniversary of his own father's death.

It is not known if he was aware of this (because of how messed up he let himself get without getting help).

Kind of hit me in the gut to be aware of it...I know..."It's not about me".

ETA that the answers I seek now are different. Why do I mourn someone who could cause so much hurt and destruction?

Why did a brand new life come in the middle of it?

What line did I get in when they handed out the fate cards?

There is so much I will never know and so much I do know.

Maybe sometimes it's best not to?

What little ability to communicate that was left is vastly deteriorating, so that crickets are basically all that I can come up with.

I did retain a new lawyer and have been able to only mention it here, so that to him it will come as a surprise-this is a bit of a shark, which is needed, as he has an NPD lawyer who enjoys a public show of humiliation for the opposition.

Well, my crickets are going so well that I'm getting a message that says, "Is everything ok?"

So, because my moods are swinging, I'm going to be naughty and let it ride some more.

We were not around the last two days so that the phone call was missed and I didn't write back any way at all, so that silence is going over the wires-thick, dark silence that I should not be enjoying so much.

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 10:23 AM, October 31st (Thursday)]

Ashland 13

The only thing that stays the same, is change. -M. Etheridge

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Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox

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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry, Honey.

Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011

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Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crickets for me have been the light that showed me the path through the ugly, dark places. At first NC was sheer willpower, not it is as easy as breathing.


Sending all of the love and strength I can muster to Phoenix1 and her family.
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

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Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD4 and a newborn
D-Day 7/2013 he didn't want R and moved in with OW
Filing for D

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Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Thinking good thoughts for you today.

Me: BS, 45 Him: XWH, 45
Together 8 yrs, married for 5
DDay 04.10.13 Divorced 05.14.13
Two furbabies

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling

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