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User Topic: So, I was asked what kinda trouble I like to get into...old rant
She11ybeanz
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Wink  Posted: 2:07 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So....typical 24 year old hottie contacts me (I'm 34) asking me what kind of trouble I like to get into. I WANT to respond, "The kind where I put you over my knee and spank you for asking me such an immature kind of question"

But, I digress. And, he gets crickets. Because you know that would just egg him on.


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2721 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
timeforchange
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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What you don't want to be a cougar?
Ah Shelly missed your chance there with a real gem.

Back in my day he would have had his mouth washed out with soap! Cheeky man!!!!!!


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”


Posts: 726 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Expats in Europe
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah....I'm 99.9% sure of exactly what he is after... and its not my mind!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2721 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG!!!! I just got an email from some guy asking me if I was a transgender since I was so hot..... I could go through the computer and smack the crap out of him!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2721 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep, validation for me not to ever do the OLD scene. You've scared me off for life!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2232 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Who the hell asks you if you are transgender???? And THEN actually thinks they might get a date afterwards???? WTH!!!! I want to date but I'm not desperate you FREAKTARD!!!! OMG!!!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2721 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Grace and Flowers
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She11y, I'm 50. And when I was on OLD at least HALF of the messages I got were from guys in their 20's. Sometimes the "mom" in me would come out, and I'd reply and say, "What are you doing? Go play in your own sandbox". I'd usually get one of two answers...."MILF", or "boobs".

And then I'd block them. Idiots.

I "met" very few "real" people on OLD...a lot of foreign scammers. And if they WERE real, they usually couldn't write more than one word messages..."hello", or "'sup?". I'd probably die if I ever met a guy on OLD that could write a coherent, full sentence. Sigh.

[This message edited by SadMad2012 at 9:25 PM, October 31st (Thursday)]


I'm Happy, not Sad!

Posts: 1171 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: US
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 6:03 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

t/j***as a member***


you FREAKTARD!!!!
Just because a person is transgender, doesn't make him a freaktard, just sayin'. end t/j


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 7:21 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just because a person is transgender, doesn't make him a freaktard, just sayin'. end t/j

I wasn't calling transgenders freaktards, I was calling the rude jerk that was calling me one a freaktard. Its very rude to assume anything about someone that you don't know without getting to know them and it is also going under the 1st assumption that I am misrepresenting myself on a dating site as being a woman when I would not be if that were true. I have a lesbian sister. I don't make rude and/or ignorant comments about people's life choices.


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2721 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 7:27 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the explanation .


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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Maxiom
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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is the game guys on OLD are taught to play. If you responded to the transgender question in a negative way.. he was going to tell you to that "Relax, Its only a joke" He is not going to apologize. Not that anyone specifically tells them to use transgender.. he's just supposed to use something elicit any response. Negative or otherwise.

There is next to no effort involved in sending a message and near to no consequences for pissing someone off. The plan is to stand out from the crowd.. and to be risque without being completely creepy.

I am not saying this is a good overall plan.. but these guys certainly did stand out.

[This message edited by Maxiom at 7:54 AM, November 1st (Friday)]


Me: FBS/WS 41
Her FWS/BS 41
My DDay - March 10, 2007 Whole Truth - May 2007
Her DDay - March 2, 2011
True NC March 3, 2011

Posts: 462 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: Canada
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am not saying this is a good overall plan.. but these guys certainly did stand out.

I responded first saying "No, are you? and when he did what you said above and apologized and said he would love to meet me and see what "chemistry we would have together" I responded by saying that although it may have been an attempt at being humorous, it took me aback and made me take a few steps back as far as wanting to get to know him further. I wished him luck on his search but told him that I was not interested.

Thanks for the explanation

No problem! I never want anyone to misinterpret something I say, especially if it would reflect on my character. I "try" to treat people the way I want to be treated. That's how I was raised.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:16 AM, November 1st (Friday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2721 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
trumanshow
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm 48 and I've been pursued by those mid 20's guys. Someone said "he prob wants a mommy" I said "and prob wants to be spanked." so you're right-that would have egged him on.


Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.

The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed


Posts: 1747 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Charlotte, NC
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah...I have no desire to be ANYONE's mommy but my daughter's.... that's it! YUCK...


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2721 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
LeopoldB
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She11ybeanz, regarding your recent experiences with OLD...

On behalf of men everywhere, I want to... blame it on the schools. Or the parents. And high-fructose corn syrup, that too. Plus, we don't really have the opportunity for tribal rites-of-passage or coming-of-age walkabouts anymore; nor the countenance of village elders and lore.

But mostly, I want to blame it on too tight or ill-fitting shoes. Podiatrists will tell you that is the root of most aberrant behavior.

[This message edited by LeopoldB at 9:40 AM, November 3rd (Sunday)]


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dignityintact
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Default  Posted: 5:28 AM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shelly,

I have been trying OLD since April this year - it sucks!
I get all the messages you get…the young guys, the married guys, I even had a stalker!
Sometimes a "nice" guy will appear, but then poof just as quickly. I read all the time about success stories from OLD, but I just can't ever see it happening??
I'm beginning to think its hopeless, and a waste of time


"Sometimes on the way to the dream, you get a lost and find a better one"

Divorcing - at last!


Posts: 94 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Uk
PhoenixRisen
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Default  Posted: 1:36 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

here would be my reply:
"I have been known to go a whole five months before I get my "3 month oil change". I'm a rebel that way.
and sometimes I am late to a parent teacher conference. yep, you guessed it, I'm a risk taker.
But the worst ever.... is when I forget my diaper bag. That is a WHOLE lot of trouble I can tell you."

Posts: 485 | Registered: Jun 2012
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But mostly, I want to blame it on too tight or ill-fitting shoes. Podiatrists will tell you that is the root of most aberrant behavior.

LeopoldB.... You cracked me up! I will assume all of these guys are just bad at shoe-shopping! It seems like recently I'm getting hit on by early 20 year olds....who TRY to tell me they are looking for something serious....but COME ON!!! I'm a 34 year old single mom.... I know and THEY know they can find a girl their age who doesn't have children....

WHY hit on me?????


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2721 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
trumanshow
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Default  Posted: 6:47 AM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This seems to be a fad now. I blame Demi and Ashton


Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.

The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed


Posts: 1747 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Charlotte, NC
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