Fly -- you are missing a very important point here. Your stbxww has a court-mandated order of protection against you. I don't know what the exact parameters of your order are or what kind of exceptions it gives you as far as dealing with 'necessary' issues -- such as kid placement, etc.-- but, dude. It sounds as if you broke that order and the judge gave you a break. I'll bet that it was within his discretion to impose some type of sanction on you right then and there. And he let you off with an admonishment and an extension of the order. I imagine that he *sees* exactly what is going on -- but he can only deal with the issue in front of him.
Your stbxww can text/email 100 vitriolic rants to you a day. You are not allowed to respond. She can show up on your doorstep with your paper and coffee every single day. And you have to keep your mouth shut. Your order doesn't have fine print that says *unless she 'starts' it*, kwim?
Stop taking her bait. It's not going to end well for you....you are playing *her* game. You are playing right into her hands. She's giving you rope and you're using it to hang yourself. Stop it. Foiling her *game* will feel much better in the long run."Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.