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User Topic: More Discoveries I didn't want
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For some reason, the XPervert has turned things up a notch. For a time the A location was quite hidden, with hidden address to boot...at least from me.

Now, mail is being changed to him for there and showing up at my house and causing triggers.

Today was a difficult day already with some changes in it, so this was not necessary to go home to-the A staring me in the face yet again, bold as brass, right in my own house.

I feel better not knowing the address of where "they" live or a anything about them...will it follow me forever?

He continues to bring her "to town" and introduce her into the life he left here.

I do not ever, ever want to set eyes on such a person and find myself trying to hide...literally.

The defiance is shocking, but I have a card in my pocket to play that will at least snub some of the fire out, when we get to court and in the meantime.

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 4:37 PM, November 1st (Friday)]


Ashland 13

The only thing that stays the same, is change. -M. Etheridge


Posts: 1965 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 5:12 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's so hard to feel like you've taken control back when unwanted and unwelcome reminders keep intruding your space.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

The sea is so wide, and my boat is so small.


Posts: 554 | Registered: May 2013 | From: A state of overwhelmed
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Ashland))))


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


Posts: 22712 | Registered: Aug 2011
SBB
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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was hit by one out of the blue a few months ago.

The sad clown has never lived here - never had his mail come here.

I receive a letter addressed to him here. WTF? Then I realise its the stuff he needs for the health insurance bit on his Tax Return (he was on my health insurance for a few weeks of the current Financial Year).

I almost vomited when I saw it. So weird.

Ash, be careful of hiding away. DO NOT let these arsesholes make you a prisoner.

The sad clown's apartment overlooked mine for over a year. I didn't realise until he was gone just how stressful it was - keeping curtains closed, going to a different pool instead of using the awesome ones I have here. If I had my time again I would have ignored the fact that he was around and just lived my life instead of allowing him to factor in my decision making..

Let HIM be uncomfortable.


Sending all of the love and strength I can muster to Phoenix1 and her family.
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

Posts: 4573 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Rainbows
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Default  Posted: 12:30 AM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Ashland)))))


I'm so sorry it seems like the hits keep coming.

Hopefully this chapter will move quickly. I'm so sorry, I know it stings.


There is always a rainbow after every storm.

Posts: 362 | Registered: May 2013 | From: California
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