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User Topic: My dog can't drive
Afraid2LoveAgain
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Default  Posted: 5:58 AM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do I think that I could teach her to drive if I worked really hard at it? Maybe if that's all I focused on day and night. And if I had an unlimited supply of peanuts. If I watched her every move, never once letting my attention be diverted.

AfraidPup is smart. She loves to please. So, yes, she might learn to drive. But she would never be a safe driver. It is not in her nature. I would never feel safe riding in the passenger seat. I would not want to travel the world with a dog chauffeur.

Maybe our lives would be better spent not focused on trying to teach dogs to drive.


BW -- 57
Divorced 2001
Reconciled with Un-Ex 2008.
Re-marriage planned for what would have been our 35th anniversary.

Posts: 396 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: NC
cayc
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Default  Posted: 7:28 AM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hah! I like the analogy.

But idk. My dog is as smart as he's going to get, and yet he's still this little furry ball of emotion that pays attention to my needs, pays attention to my mood, and does what he can to keep us both happy. My xWH who had the intellectual capacity to learn but *wilfully* chose not to, could not even manage to do that.

Which is the difference. Your dog *wants* to learn and please you and be a part of your life even if he doesn't have the intellectual capacity to change a damn thing. In contrast, WSs have the intellectual capacity but ....


BS 45, WH 38
M 8 years, together 10
Real DDay 10/07/11
Too many OW to count.
D final on 6/21/12
You have to walk away from the past in slow motion as it explodes behind you, like in a John Woo movie.

Posts: 2790 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
Afraid2LoveAgain
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Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Intellectual capacity, yes!

Emotional capacity--probably not.

:)


BW -- 57
Divorced 2001
Reconciled with Un-Ex 2008.
Re-marriage planned for what would have been our 35th anniversary.

Posts: 396 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: NC
waiting2see
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Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fwiw. I would let my dog drive my car before I would trust XWS with my heart again.


me: BS
him: XWS

Much of your pain is self-chosen. ~Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet, 1923

"It's not livin' that you're doin' if it feels like dyin." Ray Lamontagne


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Afraid2LoveAgain
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Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BW -- 57
Divorced 2001
Reconciled with Un-Ex 2008.
Re-marriage planned for what would have been our 35th anniversary.

Posts: 396 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: NC
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree, Afraid. The dog needs to teach themselves how to drive. Not our job. However, I don't feel the dog would be able to teach themselves.

Unlike people who can take control of themselves and learn.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


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SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm more likely to let my dog drive my car than to trust WH ever again. I might trust with verification at some point but is that trust?


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1264 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Chippednotbroken
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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah...


Me BS 32
STBXH 34
3 kids
Divorcing, though he isn't on board.
DDay July 13'

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stongmomof3
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This made me truly LOL. Thanks.
Fwiw I feel more comfortable with my dog driving than WH .


Me 34 BS
Him 44 WS
3 EA, 1 PA each lasting over 7 months concurrently.
Are we in R? who the hell knows.

Posts: 61 | Registered: Oct 2013
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Waiting, you made me LOL!!!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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