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Marathonwaseasy
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Default  Posted: 6:55 AM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First time
6 weeks since he phoned her to say it was over. On the phone she said she knew he was only saying that because I was listening. Didn't do a NC letter as not on SI then
He was out running today and a car pulled over. A different car from before. He thought someone was asking for directions She got out and he put his hands up and said no and ran on. She called after him "it's ok"
He told me straightaway.
I told her any future contact I would inform authorities on her benefits cheating. Will do that on Monday.


Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."


Posts: 421 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ireland
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 7:00 AM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good on your WH for telling you right away.

Maybe an official NC letter to her now? Also, you can get a lawyer to write up an official 'Please do not contact marathon or Mr. marathon. If you contact either of them again it will be considered harassment and legal action will be taken'.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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eachdayisvictory
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Default  Posted: 7:01 AM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good. Sounds like you have stayed cool and effective. Congratulations on demonstrating once again what an unquestionably better person you are than the OW! Great success!


me, BW: 34
FWH: 35
Dday: Feb 2013
LTA for 2+years
children: 2 boys age 3 and 6
Reconciling

Posts: 379 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nova Scotia, Canada
Marathonwaseasy
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Member # 40674
Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wasn't there. I told her I'd inform on her previously. I really want to but I think she would go ballistic and I really don't want her to involve my children in her poisonous games so I'm holding off on that until we move house next spring. Then she can't touch us. I hate being scared though
I am going to seek legal advice about her harassment.
Feeling so panicky now


Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."


Posts: 421 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ireland
bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your H did great!
My H caught a glimpse of OW when out running as well - said he did a fast left turn and went anaerobic trying to get away from her.

Sometimes they do good, right?
I would be worried about poking the hornet's nest with the benefits thing -- isn't the important thing that your H did the right thing? I would her chips fall where they may. You can't control her. . . and why engage with her? That just gives her more attention.


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


Posts: 1949 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Marathonwaseasy
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Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He did good
And he's been so supportive of me
I'm not going to engage in any way. I will shop her one day. Revenge is best served cold. Why should I work and pay tax to support benefit cheats??
The reason not to is to protect our kids. But if she tells them then I will report her. We will get the damn restraining order which will inconvenience her a lot and mean her husband will find out. And her kids and everybody else.
It just offends me that she would approach him and tell him she understands when he runs from her because she believes he is with me under sufferance. I know it isn't important but I'm finding it hard to let it go. Her nasty comments and texts she aimed at me around dday until I blocked her haunts me.

Sorry for now edited out name calling. I am trying to be in the spirit of R but I forgot. Feelings ran very high for me yesterday

[This message edited by Marathonwaseasy at 11:34 PM, November 2nd (Saturday)]


Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."


Posts: 421 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ireland
SI Staff
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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Marathonwaseasy,

Please follow the Reconciliation Forum guidelines. There is no OP namecalling in this forum.

Thank you.


Posts: 10000 | Registered: May 2002
Marathonwaseasy
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Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I apologise for the name calling
I forgot
I will try harder
I've edited the post


Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."


Posts: 421 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ireland
SI Staff
Moderator
Member # 10
Default  Posted: 5:33 AM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you

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