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User Topic: honesty about weight loss post dday
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Like you, I have always struggled with my weight. I was overweight when we met. When he left after the first DDay I was at my heaviest over the course of two years I gained 44lbs. When he came back I was my all time heaviest.

DDay2 hits, I dropped 15lbs in two weeks and decided to do a low carb diet and started exercising daily. I am starting to fit into my old too tight clothes and I am feeling better about myself then I did at my lowest in high school.

This is by far the longest I have ever maintained an exercise routine in my life. And for the firs time ever, it is for me and no one else.

I say embrace it and be proud. Self confidence is great for the soul!

I personally can't wait to get to my goal and buy a brand new wardrobe!

DD 1: PA 12/4/09 He spent 2.5 years with OW1
R: 8/31/2012
DD 2: EA 8/16/13
BS: 26
WH: 25
1 young daughter.
Terribly disgusted. He refuses to give up his "friend". Headed towards D.

Posts: 136 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: kentucky
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Default  Posted: 10:22 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Similarly I have lost 60 plus pound since DDay. I have cancer so I was supposed to lose it, but wasn't motivated until I discovered the infidelity diet. Now I am a regular on My Fitness Pal and go to the gym 3-5x a week. I went from a size 12 to a 0. Yeah, I get a lot of attention now.

And you know what??It's all good. Healthy is healthy. Good for you, keep it up.

Posts: 623 | Registered: Sep 2012
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Default  Posted: 10:25 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm struggling with this a lot. I have a very skewed sense of my own weight/size. I always feel fat, no matter what (I'm pretty sure I've never actually been "fat", but like I say, I can't tell).

I too, lost a bunch of weight. I enjoyed clothes being too large but I found the questions hard to answer. I couldn't tell people I was exercising when I was obviously weak.

Also, though H claims to love my body no matter what, having him love me so much more after DDay than before... it's hard not to associate it with my size.

I want to stay skinny. But I want to be happy. I want to not care what size I am. I want to believe that he loves me no matter what.

Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 943 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had a hard time explaining when people asked me what diet I was I said MFP and I did stick with it and I do think it was helpful.

I started weight lifting and feel so much stronger, can even do some pull-ups. That makes me feel like this isn't just vanity.

Posts: 623 | Registered: Sep 2012
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Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

oh my, what brilliant and insightful posters you all are. I feel crazy proud of myself for facing my discomfort with this and posting it here. I love what was said about checking myself on that external validation, and what a great tip to go and visit the wayward side when I feel too intoxicated by the external validation!!

Lord almighty, you people are amazing! All of you!

me, BW: 34
FWH: 35
Dday: Feb 2013
LTA for 2+years
children: 2 boys age 3 and 6

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