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User Topic: Moral responsibility to OW because he screwed her?!
Cally60
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Default  Posted: 2:24 AM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I believe that Rule 1, Subsection 69 in the Big Book of Moral Responsibility states the following:

If Party O engages in the act of sexual intercourse with X, in the full knowledge that a legal marital contract already exists between X and another party, all Moral Responsibility Agreements (explicit or implicit; current or future) between Party X and Party O shall immediately be rendered null and void, in perpetuity.


Posts: 2116 | Registered: Mar 2009
BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He has to decide who he wants to hurt now.

I'm going to go ahead and second this, and expand a little bit.

Since your H seems to think he is some kind of knight in shining armor, and hero man, why not explain to him in a way that he can understand...that the knight in shining armor saves the princess. He doesn't rescue EVERY princess- just his. Cinderella's prince didn't find her shoe and then run out during their wedding and say, "Hang on, The Little Mermaid needs saving too." Snow White's prince doesn't kiss her awake, and then insist on stopping at Sleeping Beauty's palace to kiss her awake and save her too. They left that whole other kingdom sleeping, because Snow White's Prince was HERS. She didn't need to share with Sleeping Beauty. Cinderella didn't need to share either. The whole point if a KISA is that he's YOUR KISA. That you don't have to share. That he rescues YOU and is hero for YOU, not some other chick.

By trying to be KISA to two women, he ended up being KISA to ZERO women. There is not a way that he can come out of this looking like a hero. He needs to decide if his wife and children are more important to him, or if this OW is more important, but he can't have both. He already hurt her, he already hurt you. By leaving things in limbo, he is just twisting the knife in your back. You can't ride two horses with one @$$, you know what I mean?


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


Posts: 840 | Registered: Jan 2013
prowoman
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Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, November 7th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He has to decide who he wants to hurt now.

Dude, stringing the OW along while he's married is not nice to her either! Him continuing to speak to her is hurting everyone. Letting her move on would be the moral thing. Repairing the damage done to his family would be the moral thing. His morality BS is an excuse wether he realizes it or not.


me: BS 39 | stbxWH: 46
DD14, DS2
DDAY: Aug12... A continued "underground"
Separated Nov13 and Divorcing
OC Born May 14

Posts: 129 | Registered: Sep 2013
NoMorDeceit
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, November 7th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Naive wife, he can be responsible to the whore he betrayed you with, or he can be responsible to you. Ask him which one he thinks is more important. Because he can't do both.

Exactly. He can't have it both ways.

He is elevating her to a status she does not deserve... above his wife. I would not tolerate that.


FBS, been through the D marathon too.
Many D Days in April 2009
Multiple affairs, LTAs, and many OWs
Reconciled... There is hope! :)


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