I am not bashing the Catholic Church, but lets keep it factual, please. I was raised Catholic and most of my family who I love dearly are Catholics. I have no ax to grind. However, I am no longer a practicing Catholic.
Absolutely! Far from bashing, I have actually wanted to convert to RC for quite a while. They cannot take me due to my membership in another ancient fraternal organization, however.
I very much respect the Roman Church
First of all, I'm so sorry. Your BIL should've protected you. He has a duty to the church of Christ that should come before any "brotherhood" he might believe there is in the C of E. If that makes sense. You deserve to have someone speak for you when you can't speak for yourself, to have someone stand in the way of harm for you when you can't. That's supposedly why they went into service I would assume.
Secondly, while we are all sinners, not all church officials are corrupt. My pastor actually got fired for speaking out against his previous head pastor. The HP was having an A and my pastor felt that it should stop. He wasn't going to be complacent. Instead the HP made everyone believe that my pastor was trying to cause trouble. He got fired. It was only later that everyone found out he was telling the truth and the HP was cheating.
Even at the risk of his job, one man spoke out. They are not all weak.
I've learned that we don't follow people. Or even a religion. We read the scripture, we pray, we seek the counsel of people who bear the Fruit of the Spirit. Humans will fail us. Sometimes utterly and catastrophically.
Please seek help from a women's shelter if your WH is still hurting you. He does not have a right to abuse you any more than he has a right to cheat on you.
❣I hope my issues don't discourage ur healing. I've buried a lot & my WH hasn't done his part in R❣
Leaning towards leaving, no one deserves this pain.
Gently, it sounds as if what really matters here is that you can't abide by your H's infidelity. Is his infidelity a deal breaker for you?
If it is, that's OK. You are not obligated to offer a chance to R. Remember - adultery is a legitimate reason for D for all Christian denominations I know of. For Jews, too, adultery is a cause for D. (Besides, IIRC, the C of E broke with Rome in order to allow a big D....)
You asked if SIers think a priest/pastor/vicar can serve as minister after cheating. The consensus seems to be 'Yes, if s/he has repented.' That seems to be the official C of E position, too.
Does that give you peace? If not, what do you need to have some peace over this issue?
If a doctor committed malpractice, I would not want that doctor to treat me. However, if the doctor cheated on his spouse, but was the most expert surgeon in his field, I would definitely want him to treat me.
The very best I/T security resources are former hackers. They know how to steal data. If they are also cheaters, what do we care so long as they are expert hackers.
Likewise my plumber. Do I hope he is faithful to his wife? I guess so. But do I care whether he is faithful to his wife or do I care whether he can fix the leak in my downstairs bathroom?
However, when a religious rep is cheating on his vows, it is not a matter of whether he can perform the ritual correctly or offer an interesting sermon. It is more about whether he can really mean what he says while doing the opposite. Religion is not an occupation - - it is a calling.
It is sort of like a parent claiming that they provide really great care for their children but don't really love them at all. Does it matter that they can say and do the right things if they do not mean it?