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User Topic: I am officially divorced as of today!!!!!!!!!!!!
ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YIPPEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

BEST. NEWS. EVER.

You've come such a long way. You are so strong. You are such an amazing mother who always puts her children first.

You are awesome.

Here's to a happy, happy future.

-Hope


Posts: 1694 | Registered: Oct 2011
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 11:13 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just give it to us straight, NG, how do you really feel about this development?

Congrats. Let the future begin! If anyone deserve it, its you!!


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2329 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 11:13 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my gosh, you guys. I feel HIGH! I mean seriously, I feel high! I was so afraid I'd cry. Okay, I admit, I did have four, maybe five tears well up after I got the email. But then I wanted to scream & shout & dance!!!

(And then I was also afraid I'd poop my pants like what almost happened a few weeks ago. Fear not, no pooping was threatened this time!)

When I told my kids that the divorce was finally final they did the screaming & shouting for me. We ended up dog-piled on the couch, laughing with relief. I know on the surface it sounds horrible that my kids reacted that way, but honestly this has been torture for them. I know they're hoping the emotional mind-fuck from STBX will fade away now. They all want to change their last names like me, for goodness' sakes!

Anyways, thank you so much, everyone, for the unfailing support over the years and the hearty congratulations now. I pray that things can just settle down now. We only have the QDRO to finalize and then STBX has to finally pick up all of his stuff from - all together now - The Garage, and then that should be it.

Unless he appeals. He could do that. I pray he doesn't.

So, in the hopes that this is it, my sincerest wish is that I could give my EX-HUSBAND (no more STBX! Woot!) this parting sentiment:

[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 11:15 PM, November 4th (Monday)]


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9650 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

and then STBX

That's now THE EX!! You need to get used to saying that. Savor how it feels rolling off your tongue!

I'm so glad your girls are enjoying this news too,

(((Happy hugs))) to you all.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2329 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
Iamhappytoday
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Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you!!!

You deserve joy and happiness and freedom. Thank you for always being so giving of your circumstances--I know it has meant much to me even if I don't comment much.

Wishing you a joyous and blessed (in whichever denomination or non-denomination you prefer), future to you and your children.

Cheers to your new chapter!


BW 39
WH 34
2DD's 15 months at start
Together 10 years, M 9
OW 22 CW, 2kids by 2 men & youngest less than 1 when affair started.
Dday 1 8/16/12 "just texting"
TT, gaslighting, denial; was always PA; he left me for her.

Posts: 132 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Free!!!
ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The EX!

Posts: 1694 | Registered: Oct 2011
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 11:41 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope your turn is coming sooner rather than later, CH!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9650 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
timeforchange
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Default  Posted: 12:19 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You made it

My heartfelt congratulations to you.

Here's hoping 2014 is full of wonderful amazing things for you.

You soooooooooo deserve a wonderful bright future.


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”


Posts: 726 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Expats in Europe
Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 12:22 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am SOOOO relieved for you!!

And good song. You should put it to music.


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2508 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 12:56 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am SO happy for you! Fantasmagoricalidosis!


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1177 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 12:57 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! You are finally at long last free of him.

Glad to hear he got custody of the garage contents


Me: Awesome - 35

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be". –


Posts: 728 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
dmari
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Default  Posted: 1:59 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

O.M.G.
Congratulations!! I am SO happy and SO jealous (oops, that's supposed to be a secret ) for you! Just kidding … I am really really happy for you!

I hate to say this but your EX is one of the worst I've heard about so I'm glad you are not legally tied to him any longer!!

Hugs hugs hugs … Rejoice Rejoice Rejoice!!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2191 | Registered: Oct 2012
BrokenDaisy
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Default  Posted: 5:10 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am glad this part of your journey is finally behind you! I felt like I could finally breath again when it was final. Enjoy the freedom! Congratulations!!


Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Divorced!!

Posts: 259 | Registered: Oct 2012
openedupmyeyes
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Cool  Posted: 5:30 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats on board for you NG! FTG with a big stick of indifference.


Me:53 BS
Him:53 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
Years married:35
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.

Posts: 762 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: The Great State of Texas
jemimapd
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Default  Posted: 5:50 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations, NG! Love your posts and happy for your news.


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
cmego
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Default  Posted: 6:47 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

awesome...and the video is perfection.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4136 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
million pieces
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Default  Posted: 6:48 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Soooo happy to hear!!!


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 11
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1244 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
ninebark
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Default  Posted: 6:51 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YAY!! I am so happy for you. GO have some divorce cake and divorce wine...lol.

I am at my mail everyday just waiting for my to finish. I can't wait to join you!!!


BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

Posts: 630 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Canada
jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!

Sending you this for the Grrrage:
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Posts: 6572 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
woundedwidow
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Default  Posted: 7:33 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ohmagawd, I am SO happy for you!!! Plus, I hope that if he is stupid enough to appeal, that his puny d*ck falls off. (Actually, I really hope it falls off anyway, for all that he has put you through). Congrats, NG!


Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.

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