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User Topic: The Stupidest Thing
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When asked why he did it..he said,well you know why and then shrugged his shoulders.
Last week he said...what do you mean you don't trust me? Yes I should trust someone who lied to me for 3 years, gave me a STD, and got OW pregnant.
What a dumbass!

Me BS:35
Him WS:36
Kids 10 and 3
Embracing the furture. I know that I will be great no matter what the future brings.

Posts: 128 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Chicago
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She said "our families (meaning hers and the OM's) always came first". Uh huh... Another good one,...when I confronted her about the phone calls but way before I knew it was already a full blown PA , she said it " was wrong and she would stop ". Wel, I guess she did stop, it was just 3 years later than I thought..
Seriously, I must say now that everything is going well. (That "fog" is a killer)

married 21 yr

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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I didn't realize it was an affair"

Here's another:

Crazy MCOW comes snot weeping to our house because she thinks my H, who is supposedly NC except for minimal necessary work interactions, is cheating on her with other women in his department. "I had to let her in! I had to defend myself!"

DDay Feb 2011.
In R.

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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh the dandies i heard, wow...including some that have already been i wont repeat them...seriously do they all talk from the same dumbass script?
"I knew it wouldnt last long"
"Why cant you just get a girlfriend so i can keep dating?"
"I dont owe you anything"
"Its my business, not yours"
"I only slept with one other man"...made dumber by a note she wrote saying she was tired of other MEN...plural...duh.
I could go on and on....but my favorite...exww had a breakdown when the 20 year old child she was screwing dumped her. So im in the looney bin and her sister says, "he is just a symptom." And yes, you know my answer. "Pretty sure that symptom fucked the shit out of my wife for three months.
Now that my friends, is how dumbshit delusional entitled selfish pricks lose their marriage.

I define me! I don't just survive, I thrive!!

Me: fBH 46
Her: exWW 42
DDay: Nov 1, 2012
Divorced: September 17, 2013

Posts: 289 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ohio
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Default  Posted: 12:18 AM, November 7th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh where to start

"but I had to have an affair, you forced me as you ironed too slowly"

"don't you dare blame OW... It's not OWs fault she is very young ... It's your fault"

After getting my ducks in a row (after seeing texts) and using a gps tracker on his car I said to him "for the last 6 weeks you have only slept 1 Night per week at home.. I know you are spending the night's at OWs residence located at xxx Cheaters Road, whoreville" his reply.... "but I never slept with her we only shared a bed"...

Did he think that a) I would bllelieve him &
b) I would say "oh you only shared a bed? That's ok then!"

makes me laugh now ... Nearly 4 years on

Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”

Posts: 726 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Expats in Europe
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Default  Posted: 2:31 AM, November 7th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, so many.

"I never stopped loving you." (not helpful)
"I always made sure that when I bought her flowers, I bought you flowers, too. And I always spent the same amount on you as I did on her." (which explains why I got orchids three times last year)
"She reminded me of you, actually." (no she didn't)
"What I wanted was the attention and the validation. I really didn't want to have sex with her." (yes you did)
"I was afraid that if I stopped seeing her, she might have someone in her family physically harm you. They're in the mafia." (no they're not - oh, and thank you for putting me in line for a mafia hit)
"You would think she is very, very beautiful." (no I really, really didn't)
"She said she had started going to church because of me." (no she didn't. Oh, and seriously, whaaaat??)
"The last time we had sex the condom broke, so after that there wasn't much point in using one." (I see that logic, and I raise you 2 BV infections and an OC)
"She kind of scared me. I really thought she might be some kind of stalker". (bravo, darling)
"She said I was the most amazing man she had ever met in her entire life." (...... clearly she does not leave her house often)
"I feel like I owe her an apology for using her." (ummmm, no)
"I didn't want to have an affair with her. I tried to go to a prostitute, and I went to a massage parlor - but it wasn't any good. I really need RELATIONSHIP." (omg, your brain has dissolved)

My very personal favorite, telling me about the first time they actually had 'sex': "Well, we had already done everything else." (Me: What's 'everything else'?) "You know.. anal?" (I don't even know what to say to that)

He's out of the fog. This is what he said to me two days ago: "You are the reason my heart beats. In fact, you might actually be the beat of my heart." He's definitely improved his strategy.

Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

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Default  Posted: 6:03 AM, November 7th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay, this was another prize winner.

I asked fWH about the time he and MOW had sex. He had asked her to dinner at his hotel which he had booked a few miles from her house. Why did he take her to his room?

"It was just down the corridor."

Handy then.

D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 57 y/o Him, WS, 58 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 19 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

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Default  Posted: 6:12 AM, November 7th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"She looked like you only thinner".


D-Day 19 July 2012
Me - BS - 42
Status: Divorced

Posts: 187 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: England
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Default  Posted: 7:20 AM, November 7th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH said SO many dumb things.

"We can have an open marriage so you don't have to have the pressure of daily sex. I'll just come home a little late a couple times a week - you won't even notice it." He said that when he was asking to stay in the M and still see OW6

"I made that secret email because I thought you were leaving me since you've gone back in school" Said that last week when I found a new email.

"I was just thinking about having sex" when I discovered hidden condoms - he's actually used that line twice.

"I just met her in a hotel room to talk to and and break up with her" When busted about being in a hotel room during false R (via hidden gps)

BS - Me, 41 SAHM back in grad school
WS - Husband, 43 SA dx in March 2013
T-20, M-18 college sweethearts
Multiple DDays since 1999 - OW's all the way back to engagement
Most recent DDay 8-12,false R 1/13
DD-11, DS 13 with ASD

Posts: 779 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Virginia
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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, November 8th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd swear there is a " Cheater's Handbook" out where somewhere where WSpouses get all their answers and excuses.....
They all use the same lines.

And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive.But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”

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