Crazy MCOW comes snot weeping to our house because she thinks my H, who is supposedly NC except for minimal necessary work interactions, is cheating on her with other women in his department. "I had to let her in! I had to defend myself!"
Me: fBH 46
Her: exWW 42
DDay: Nov 1, 2012
Divorced: September 17, 2013
"but I had to have an affair, you forced me as you ironed too slowly"
"don't you dare blame OW... It's not OWs fault she is very young ... It's your fault"
After getting my ducks in a row (after seeing texts) and using a gps tracker on his car I said to him "for the last 6 weeks you have only slept 1 Night per week at home.. I know you are spending the night's at OWs residence located at xxx Cheaters Road, whoreville" his reply.... "but I never slept with her we only shared a bed"...
Did he think that a) I would bllelieve him &
b) I would say "oh you only shared a bed? That's ok then!"
makes me laugh now ... Nearly 4 years on
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”
"I never stopped loving you." (not helpful)
"I always made sure that when I bought her flowers, I bought you flowers, too. And I always spent the same amount on you as I did on her." (which explains why I got orchids three times last year)
"She reminded me of you, actually." (no she didn't)
"What I wanted was the attention and the validation. I really didn't want to have sex with her." (yes you did)
"I was afraid that if I stopped seeing her, she might have someone in her family physically harm you. They're in the mafia." (no they're not - oh, and thank you for putting me in line for a mafia hit)
"You would think she is very, very beautiful." (no I really, really didn't)
"She said she had started going to church because of me." (no she didn't. Oh, and seriously, whaaaat??)
"The last time we had sex the condom broke, so after that there wasn't much point in using one." (I see that logic, and I raise you 2 BV infections and an OC)
"She kind of scared me. I really thought she might be some kind of stalker". (bravo, darling)
"She said I was the most amazing man she had ever met in her entire life." (...... clearly she does not leave her house often)
"I feel like I owe her an apology for using her." (ummmm, no)
"I didn't want to have an affair with her. I tried to go to a prostitute, and I went to a massage parlor - but it wasn't any good. I really need RELATIONSHIP." (omg, your brain has dissolved)
My very personal favorite, telling me about the first time they actually had 'sex': "Well, we had already done everything else." (Me: What's 'everything else'?) "You know.. anal?" (I don't even know what to say to that)
He's out of the fog. This is what he said to me two days ago: "You are the reason my heart beats. In fact, you might actually be the beat of my heart." He's definitely improved his strategy.
I asked fWH about the time he and MOW had sex. He had asked her to dinner at his hotel which he had booked a few miles from her house. Why did he take her to his room?
"It was just down the corridor."
"We can have an open marriage so you don't have to have the pressure of daily sex. I'll just come home a little late a couple times a week - you won't even notice it." He said that when he was asking to stay in the M and still see OW6
"I made that secret email because I thought you were leaving me since you've gone back in school" Said that last week when I found a new email.
"I was just thinking about having sex" when I discovered hidden condoms - he's actually used that line twice.
"I just met her in a hotel room to talk to and and break up with her" When busted about being in a hotel room during false R (via hidden gps)