No one is responding to the yoga at work thread, but I really need help. At the dinner table last night I sat across from H and asked him about work(new job).
I asked about secretaries. He kind of lied. He said he didn't have one that the finance person/office manager did everything for everyone(30 person office and 6 in his group). He said only one person had an admin.
I asked if she was 80(knowing she's 20 something), and he said no 22( I acted a little shocked because the secretary pool at the old job was all 60yo+ women). His response was oh maybe 24. I said oh, that's much better. I started asking a couple of pointed questions like who does this or that for you(things that involve me providing him with paperwork to submit). He got up and left the dinner table using the excuse to check on our son doing his homework. It was total avoidance.
Tonight is yoga at the office. He is obviously checking out this 20something online, and who knows what he's doing through his work email or phone. He's very protective of his phone again.
I want to address this yoga thing. I know about it from the HR person I deal with for reimbursements and I know about it because he was chatting about the girl with a single guy on ichat and sharing her instagram link.
He also mentioned that he could've ruined his life with a particular girl at a work party back in the summer, but "he's staying strong".
I am not ok with this cool guy act. He doesn't see that it's disrespectful and that he's checked out of our relationship even though he thinks I don't know.
The big question is how do I plan an exit strategy. I'm paralyzed hating my life, stuck in a new place with no support, and money is tight because of the move. hate.my.life.Me 41
Married 11...he forgot our anniversary
Together 17 years
Two great kids.
He doesn't get it. Moving us to his hometown with his toxic mother is going to be the end of us.