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User Topic: Just saw OW
roarlouder
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Went to get a coffee and walked right by her. I am sure she saw me, but she wouldn't look at me. I stared at her, so she'd know I saw her.
I mentally prepared for not being rattled when this day came, part of me wishes I'd said something.
Boggles the mind because she is nothing special. I know the A wasnt about that, but it still seems like it would make sense to cheat with someone hotter, smarter and nicer than your wife. And she is none I those things.


DDay-sept 2013
1LTA(5yrs) plus many ONS
Divorcing.
No kids

Posts: 356 | Registered: Oct 2013
roarlouder
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Member # 40921
Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Also 2 months to the day of DDay. How weird is that?


DDay-sept 2013
1LTA(5yrs) plus many ONS
Divorcing.
No kids

Posts: 356 | Registered: Oct 2013
Raven96
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Default  Posted: 4:27 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They always affair down, and guess what! She was avoiding looking at you because she knows you are hotter, smarter and nicer than she is!!!!!!!

I'm sorry you had to see her. That sucks.


Marriage isn't a test, so why cheat?

Posts: 379 | Registered: Aug 2013
anewday78
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Member # 39357
Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You may not realize it but that was karma at work! The fact that you saw her today, considering the significance of this day, is both ironic and coincidental. Taken together, irony and coincidence form one thing - karma. You saw her and proved your superiority over her to both yourself and her. You realized she's not all that and she couldn't even look at you while you were able to stare her down on your way out. That. Is. Karma.

Posts: 350 | Registered: May 2013
roarlouder
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Member # 40921
Default  Posted: 4:43 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It feels so good!!! I knew this was inevitable as we work in close locations. I handled exactly how I wanted to. She was with colleagues and part of me wishes I'd introduced myself to them and explained how I know who she is...

I feel relieved. I know this will happen again. Two months and WH having a good day. I know the A wasnt about me, but hard to understand it looking at her. I now feel way to good for my WH.

I thought I'd be mad and jealous... I am not at all.


DDay-sept 2013
1LTA(5yrs) plus many ONS
Divorcing.
No kids

Posts: 356 | Registered: Oct 2013
roarlouder
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Member # 40921
Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it possible seeing her makes me want to let go of WH? I just feel so full of nothing....not jealous, not angry. I just kind of want to laugh in his face. I think he's worried it was hard for me-based on calls and emails since- but I feel like I am letting go....is it letting go of the A, or letting go of him?


DDay-sept 2013
1LTA(5yrs) plus many ONS
Divorcing.
No kids

Posts: 356 | Registered: Oct 2013
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

roar - I'm not sure but I feel exactly the same way when I see the OW - why am I with him? If he understood this he may push harder for us to move.


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me: 48
him: 51
4 kiddos in lower 20's

ôSlide the weight from your shoulders and move forward. You are afraid you might forget, but you never will. You will forgive and remember."


Posts: 4537 | Registered: Dec 2010
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

double post!

[This message edited by rachelc at 5:54 PM, November 6th (Wednesday)]


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me: 48
him: 51
4 kiddos in lower 20's

ôSlide the weight from your shoulders and move forward. You are afraid you might forget, but you never will. You will forgive and remember."


Posts: 4537 | Registered: Dec 2010
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