TG, it *is* just hearsay on my part. Even if I knew *for sure* GS wasn't in school, I have no clue which district I would report it to. SIL could literally anywhere in the state. I have no idea where any of his family lives and therefore no way to find out where he is currently. All I know is what DD told us in the short time we saw her while she was in town. And honestly, I'm not sure how much of this info came from stbxSIL or how accurate it is. If it *did* come from stbxSIL he could very well be... dishonest about it just to make DD worry. Like I said in a previous post, he's very much a typical unremorseful wayward so I wouldn't put it past him to do and say things just to screw with her head.
As for DD not being responsible enough to make decisions for herself much less the kids, part of the reason she moved was for a fresh start, so she could give the kids more stability than they've been getting with their father. I still say moving every year (if not more) is not good for them. They have no chance to even begin putting down roots. I think in the last three years they must have moved half a dozen times or more. Even "military brats" don't move that often.
And before anyone says anything, yes, I know she could have made a fresh start here in Ohio but that would have been no guarantee the situation would be different.
I wish I'd seen this coming, I really do. We'd have taken her *and* the kids despite the crowding. Three adults and three kids in a one bedroom house would have been a bit... cozy but if it would have saved DD from this incertainty, we'd have managed. We did before in the last place we lived. But I guess I'm more of an optimist than I wanted to believe.BH Cee64D - 48
WW (me) - 49
All affairs are variations on a theme. No one has 'Beethoven's 5th' to everyone else's 'Chopsticks'.