I have been in IC for over 2 years. I like my IC, but I'm getting to the point where I don't think she is helping much anymore. We talk about a lot of the same things over and over again and I just don't feel that I'm getting everything that I need from it.
So...I'm thinking about switching to a new IC. However, I'm worried about having to start over and get a new person to know me as well as my existing IC. I'm trying to think of this like 'getting a second opinion' from a doc. I'm just worried that I'll take 3 steps back and then go a long time without taking a step forward.
She wants answers... I'm still trying to figure out what the questions are.
me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
Me: I didn't sign up for this.
Him: you're already in this. All you can do is resign...
D-Day, June 10, 2012
I would have returned to my second IC at certain points since then when I was feeling low or a little lost, but she moved out of state.
IMO, if you feel that you have reached the limit where your IC can help then it is time to take a break and/or find someone else who may use a different approach. I did have to tell my story again to the second IC, but that only took one session.
If she starts working with you to solve the problems, it may be best to continue with her. If she gets defensive or tries to hold on to you, it's probably best to leave.