Talk to her. Tell her how that makes you feel. Express what her saying that does to your hopes of true R.
My H and I just had a similar experience, holy crap these things are hard and hurtful! But we did it, we got through it... I cried and even broke a glass (for the first time ever, in my life).
And as soon as he "got it" a thousand pound weight lifted off me. But we never would gotten there without talking. Sharing your feelings is so hard, I find it almost physically painful at times, but it really works.
The other part here is that you are the BS, you put yourself out there to your WW and her response felt like a rejection. (OK I'm projecting here, that's how it would feel to me) She NEEDS to understand that.