Later in the day, he called to say he was running some errands and did I want him to pick up anything for me? I said no then he said "love you". All I said was "I know" and hung up.
Last night he was following me around the house like a puppy. Finally, I get into bed and he asks why I couldn't say "love you" back to him. I said, "I know you love me, love you too".
Is this all normal? How do I respond to this stuff? I really do love him still but the 180 article says I don't have to say it. Sorry I'm rambling. I'm just still not clear on how to do this 180 thing. If there is a good post on it, will one of you link me to it since I'm not seeing it? Thanks in advance. Happy Serenity Saturday!
Your wanderer needs to figure out what that means to them. And you have no obligation to help them with that.
Meanwhile, you keep the focus on you - your interests, your happiness, which is precisely where your focus belongs.
Her: WW/56 Me: BS/62, 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11
When I came into our house, she was devastated. She thought I left or had an accident. I told her she took a lot of bad decision by herself, and only thought of herself. I said that as for now, I would think about me first. After this night, she truly realized what she had done and what she could have lost. She's still working on herself, but at least she changed her attitude.
I think you are doing the right thing!
Stormy, use as much or as little of the 180 as you need to provide yourself with the room and strength you need to decide what it is you need. Don't try to use it to change him. It's for you!