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User Topic: Worried about health-hugs needed
gardens64
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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi all,
I don't post here much but I have benefited so much from the wise posts here. I am slowly working through divorce due to husband's infidelity and repeated trickle truth. I'm a SAHM for the past five years and having a hard time finding work. Still doing in-house not enough $$ to move out yet.

I've been doing all the "right" things, therapy, exercise, socializing, getting support. I started exercising more and found blood in my stool and have started having digestive discomfort. Already made an appt with my doctor. Rationally it's probably the consequences of two pregnancies, ladies will know what I mean. But I just am terrified it might be something serious. My grandmother had colon cancer in late 40's. I just had some serious health problems a year ago. I really need to be healthy right now to get through this. I have two young kids. Haven't I been through enough? Dr appt next week, haven't told any of my relatives yet. It's just weighing on my mind so heavily...


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Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for you to have an additional burden. You have taken all of the right actions. Hugs, Garden.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


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Unagie
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Gardens64))))

I hope everything turns out well. Its so good that you're taking care of yourself.


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No longer together

Do not let others be your reference for who you see in the mirror.

Stop allowing people to hurt you, because you don't love you enough to walk away.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((gardens))))) Sending you strength and tons of healthy mojo, honey.


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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((HUGS)))


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are doing the right thing in seeing your doc.

Have you ever had a test for occult blood in stool?

Bright red blood can be due to many minor issues and is usually not serious, but you are taking the right step forward.

Wishing you all the best.

Try not to worry too much.

Sending huge hugs.


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Millions of hugs to you.

You're right. It's probably not anything ominous. But you're wise to have it checked out. Early detection is key, should there be any issues.

(Still, 2 babies...it's likely exactly what you think it is.)


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you healthy mojo. You have been doing everything you can to help this have a good result. Hopefully a very easy fix. You're so smart not to wait. (((Garden64)))


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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gardens64
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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks so much guys. I needed that. dreamlife, I have not had that type of test. It will most likely be minor I know. It's just hard to have to wait, and be thinking about yet something else. My WH has great health insurance and we are civil enough to extend that right now even if we get the rest of separation in place. I have a great doctor.

It is weird to not be sharing this with WH. I am thinking about what to do if I need a procedure under sedation. Another layer in the grieving process.


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numbandnauseous
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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

gardens - hugs to you. So sorry you are going through a health scare in addition to your WH's infidelity.

I don't know how old you are, but definitely mention your grandmother's history of early colon cancer to your doc.

Procedures they might do:
hemoccult cards - you take these cards home and smear your stool on them and take them back so they can see if there is any blood in the stool that you can't see (meaning coming from higher up in the colon/digestive tract).

anoscopy - a small, torpedo-shaped instrument they insert to see if they can see anything in the rectum.

Probably with your family history, a colonoscopy would be the best way to go - under sedation, they insert a tube with a camera on it and look at your entire colon to rule out colon cancer. Some places have pills that you swallow that have the ability to look at your colon as well.

But, as everyone has said, with 2 pregnancies, it is probably nothing major. So glad you are taking care of yourself and having it checked out. Great to hear that you have a fantastic doctor and you have good health insurance.

As for not sharing with WH, that is tough. Have you been able to share it with family or close friends? Do you have someone that will be able to drive you and pick you up if you need to have a procedure done?


BS (me) - 41
WH - 48, EA with HS GF x 2
M: 10 years, T: 20
2 small children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)
Divorcing

Posts: 827 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: the other side
careerlady
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Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((HUG))))

Statistics are on your side! I see people with blood in their stools all the time and it is usually just hemorrhoids. I'm sorry for all you're going through!


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
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dmari
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Default  Posted: 1:07 AM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((gardens64))))) So sorry that you are going through a health scare. I'm glad you have an appointment with your doctor. Continue to do all the "right" things and lean on us for support. Please keep us updated if you can. Hugs hugs and one more hug!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 2:32 AM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending big hugs and a TMI PM.


It is better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie. -Russian Proverb

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gardens64
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Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks again for all the support! It helps put it in perspective. Yes I wont be surprised if I get colonoscopy, good times! My brother could take me or my uncle in a pinch. I don't want to say anything until I have a better idea of what's going on. It is a tad private.

I know even in the worst case it would likely to be early detection and that is ideal. I already have a great GI doc who did an endoscopy last year, and wanted me to find out exactly when my grandfather had the cancer so I could do early screening if needed.

I will keep you updated. Thanks again for the virtual hugs I really needed them :)


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Kelany
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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have them check for ulcers. If it is, most often meds can fix the problem. I have extensive knowledge in this aeea, pm me if this is the cause.


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DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you healthy mojo!


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Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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gardens64
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Default  Posted: 10:50 PM, November 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi guys! I went to the dr and, well, it looks like it is most likely those things you need preparation H for! Lovely. They tested for blood in stool and for anemia. I got some medicine to shrink them and follow up in a month. Whew. Embarrassing but I feel much better.

Thanks again for all of your great thoughts. I'm switching to walking until things heal up.


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sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, November 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((gardens64))). We are here for you


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gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 1:36 PM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So happy you got good news! I'm going through a health scare too and it sucks!

Glad yours proved to be nothing serious. Take good care of yourself while you heal.


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling


Posts: 750 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad to hear you got good news!


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

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