I'm so damn angry.
From my point of view, anger is poison to R. We tend to remain angry at the person that caused us pain because we feel they have not been punished enough or not done enough to mitigate the damage. Examine your motivations for remaining angry and determine what can be done. Perhaps you are withholding your WH's love language as a form of punishment?
I have also found that loving feelings follow loving actions. Sometime if we force ourselves to be loving and kind it can make a big difference. Try doing something romantic or loving for your WH.
So sorry you are going through this.