I try to cheer her up, I do make her laugh...but it's not enough. I ask again if she wants space and for me to leave her alone....she doesn't know what she wants. After talking it's agreed that she "dumped" me and I will leave her alone. I tell her when she figures out what she wants to let me know. Ends nice, all is ok.
Today I could tell she is happier, she texted me many times. I respond in a friendly manner, but nothing extra. Then she askes if I want to go to a game with her saturday. I'm caught off guard, stumble, and before I answer she says "its ok you don't have to go". Then I told her I just need to think about it and I'll let her know asap. I also tell her she might have more fun with someone else. Which is true cause I'm in the dumps after being put there.
I've told her no matter what, I want to stay friends. In my position is it best for her to be away from me, or should I be the friend that goes with her? At this point, I really don't know what I want.
So, she's down, sad, depressed. will I add to it going? How do you deal with someone like this. I just want the best for her right now since she is sad.
I sure wish women came with directions. hahaha
After talking it's agreed that she "dumped" me and I will leave her alone. I tell her when she figures out what she wants to let me know. Ends nice, all is ok.
Then she askes if I want to go to a game with her saturday.
You, my dear 9.10.11, are getting mixed messages! And mixed messages drive me CRAZY!
I think this is still true
she doesn't know what she wants.
We teach people how to treat us you know, and if you respond by going out with her to the game on Saturday, you are allowing her to treat you like you have no feelings and that your feelings of being down in the dumps matter less than her's. And, she can't miss you unless you go away...
I know we womenz can be kind of difficult to understand, (men can be too!!) but if we don't "call people out" on their mixed messages, we will keep experiencing this type of behavior! Sometimes others need to be "taught" how their behavior affects us...
Good luck. Phew.
If you are OK with this I say relax and have some fun. If this will leave you only wanting more than it is best to pass as she obviously does not at this point.
"True nobility isn't about being better than any one else. It's about being better than you used to be." -Wayne Dyer
Personally, I would let her go. Call her on her crap and ask her to lose your number.
you two should be apart from each other until maturity, whatever it takes.
the story is like a high school drama.
Leave the drama for the llama.
You are not ok, she is not ok, but it is ok.
take time to get your act together and move on before it becomes toxic if not already is.
My two very sincere cents.