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poopylala
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Sad  Posted: 1:40 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got a letter Saturday that I'd been rejected. I went by today to see if I could speak to someone about why I was rejected. The council doesn't speak to applicants. I left and emailed an instructor I work with about it and she suggested I ask about wait listing. Apparently, I would've been notified that I was in the letter had I been chosen. This same instructor said I was a shoo in because of my credentials- good GPA, good entrance exam scores, I work for the nursing school, I have a biology degree...

I'm beyond shocked. In fact, my feelings have mirrored some of the feelings I felt back after Dday (am I allowed to say that?). I was in shock Saturday. I had severe anxiety yesterday at work. My stomach kept feeling like it was dropping and my legs and hands were shaking. I still feel a bit on edge.

How is it I wasn't even wait listed? I'm just in disbelief... When I called, the lady suggested I apply for the summer semester which isn't as competitive. Based on what everyone told me, I should've been a strong candidate THIS time around. I don't want to go for an easier semester. I wanted to be accepted to start this January.

Sorry if I'm rambling. I'm just so... I don't know..

On the plus side, I do have two jobs lined up for the spring that are short term and will help me financially. Fwbf and I discussed looking at buying a house together sometime in 2014 hopefully and these jobs would help me get closer to being ready for that. I just wanted to start school so badly. I miss school. I am applying for the summer and fall semesters and I could do the community school program (I applied to an awesome university) but I didn't like the vibes from the school when I went there.

I'm just.... sad...


BGF (me)- 25
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Was in a LTR but it's complicated now

forgiven and in R :)

"To err is human.
To forgive,
divine"


Posts: 961 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Houston, TX
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((poopylala))) - just in case you don't think of this yourself, can your contacts in the nursing school get any good info, or maybe an interview with a member of the admissions committee, for you?


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DDay - 12/2010
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Posts: 10374 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
poopylala
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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I did call, she said my scores and grades were good. They don't do interviews anymore but I suppose it couldn't hurt to ask.


BGF (me)- 25
FWBF (him)- 24
Was in a LTR but it's complicated now

forgiven and in R :)

"To err is human.
To forgive,
divine"


Posts: 961 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Houston, TX
poopylala
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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"They don't meet with students; they send us a list of who was accepted and who was rejected, with no reasons listed."

I was suggested by the previous person when I called earlier to apply for the summer when it's less competitive. While I will apply for the summer and the fall, it's not the same as applying and being accepted the first time around.


BGF (me)- 25
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Was in a LTR but it's complicated now

forgiven and in R :)

"To err is human.
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Posts: 961 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Houston, TX
StrongerOne
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why is starting in the summer not ok (aside from having to wait to start)? Do you do the same course of study? end up with the same degree or credential? have the same shot at internships and such?

I mean these questions to be helpful, not snarky . I have the same issue with my students who want to get into X or Y major at my university; more people apply at the end of spring term, because lots of people finish the pre-reqs that term, so the major is harder to get into at that time. But if they apply in the fall, much easier. There is no difference other than the date they move into the new major.

Apply again for the summer term. It may have nothing to do with you, and everything to do with how many spaces were available, the number of applicants, and the credentials of the other applicants.

BTW, always take "you are a shoo-in" with a grain of salt. t/j which illustrates this: I interviewed some years ago with the director of a department, was told by the director (who had final say) that "it was just a formality" to get me hired, and then didn't get the job because another candidate came in who was lots more experienced than I was. The dept director was incredibly embarrassed, and rightfully so -- it was unprofessional to offer the job until the search was concluded. Same thing for you: no one should PROMISE admission if they can't guarantee it.

[This message edited by StrongerOne at 3:08 PM, November 11th (Monday)]


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((poopylala))))


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poopylala
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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Each semester offers the same program but with a different starting time. The difference is the spring/fall starts have no classes in the summer, leaving me free to work to save up. The summer start would not. I love my summer job and was even offered a promotion.

On the other hand, I found a cool paid nursing internship for nursing students and Id love to do that. I just need to get accepted!

You're right, the program is the same just with a different start date and different competition level. I guess I saw it as lesser for it being historically easier to get into as it has less competition. I wanted to be accepted first time around with the regular amount of competition, but I wasn't.

I'm sad still that things won't go the way I wanted but I'm moving forward and will find a way to make it work. Life seems to always involve all these trials for the things I really want and it's only normal for it to apply to nursing school too


BGF (me)- 25
FWBF (him)- 24
Was in a LTR but it's complicated now

forgiven and in R :)

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To forgive,
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Posts: 961 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Houston, TX
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 4:14 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At the end of the program when you get a degree, NO ONE is going to care whether you started winter, spring, summer or fall.....

I'm sorry you got rejected and a monkey wrench thrown into your plans, but it sounds like you still have some good options.

((((poopylala))))


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Posts: 2606 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((poopylala)))))

Remember everything happens for a reason and as someone who is an RN, BSN, let me just say that with your biology degree the nursing programay have assumed that it was below your ability. I went to a four year school and straight from high school. That program was extremely competitive including an essay for acceptance, referrals that they actually called and red line limits for ACT scores. The interesting thig was two of the girls that were degreed in biology and the program directors struggled with what was equal or accepted class wise there are some very specific science classes that you have to take so that may be a component of why you weren't chosen.

Any chance there are other schools that you could enroll in?
Definitely get a job in the field this will help in the future.
Try to take classes that you would have had you made it in, and do apply for summer enrollment that way you won't be behind.

((( and strength))))


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Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
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Posts: 8713 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((poopy)))

I'm sorry. Look, it's just a little delay. Apply for the summer program because this is what you want, right??


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foxglove
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry this happened. I am a director of nursing at a community college. I never, never, never tell students that I am certain they will be admitted to the program. It is certain to create disappointment and anger on the part of the prospective student if they are not admitted. When we send out decision letters to students, I individualize a letter to each applicant to let them know what they can do to be more successful in the next application round. Very time consuming, but I believe it helps prospective students to know what they can do to be successful.

That said, nursing programs have become incredibly competitive. Do you have an academic advisor? An academic advisor may not be able to tell you exactly why you didn't get into the program, but he/she should be able to tell you the criteria for admission, as transparency is very important. Also, since programs are so competitive, I usually recommend that students apply to more than one program or consider wait listing. Does this program take a certain portion from the competitive list and part from the wait listed side? Sometimes the wait lists can appear long, but prospective student frequently drop off for one reason or another and you can move up quickly.

Best of luck to you in the future.


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Posts: 1462 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Northern Michigan
Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is there any chance you can go to another college? I was attending a public university and had a GPA of a 3.2 and the program was so competitive that I would have needed a MINIMUM 3.8 to get in I transferred to a different (private) university and was accepted the following semester. Both universities are looked upon with prestige, both are accredited, and both graduate good nurses. I ended up paying more for my education, but I wouldn't change it...I also ended up liking my Alma Mater better because it was a smaller program and my professors will stop to talk to me, if they see me at the university, or when I'm out and about Maybe something worth considering. Good luck!


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poopylala
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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I called to ask about wait listing and they said in place of a rejection letter, I would've received a wait listing letter. I asked if there was anything I could do to become wait listed and they said the Council's decision was made and they just send out the corresponding letters.

There are other programs but this is the school I fell in love with. Most of the other schools use a different entrance exam so the plan now is to study for that entrance exam. One other issue they don't all require the same prerequisite classes so that's going to end up costing too much. I am in the community college system and if I take their pharmacology class, I can enroll in their associates nursing program, which has a special transfer option into the school I was just rejected from.

I have options. I am applying for the summer and fall semesters as well. Worst case, I also apply for Spring 2015 for this same school. I don't have the money for all the entrance exams and extra prereq classes so I have to plan this out wisely.

I am feeling much calmer, although a little detached still. I appreciate all the advice and kind words you've all given me. I'm looking to work in a doctor office of some kind but I've been applying for over a year for various jobs and none of them have come through except the job I have with the nursing school I'd just been rejected from. Anybody know of any medical jobs in Houston?

It'll work out somehow


BGF (me)- 25
FWBF (him)- 24
Was in a LTR but it's complicated now

forgiven and in R :)

"To err is human.
To forgive,
divine"


Posts: 961 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Houston, TX
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My parents are both nurses, and so am I.

My mother was the 3rd of 4 children born to a very dysfunctional family. She was often ignored, was abused, was sent to live with an aunt from age 13-15 with NO explanation. She thought she was ugly and stupid. A family near her had a house fire and a boy she cared about died in that fire. She decided she wanted to be a nurse. A teacher at her very small, rural high school helped her apply to the school of her dreams. She was rejected and immediately decided that she wasn't meant to be a nurse. The teacher (God bless this woman) would not allow her to quit, and made her apply to another school. She was accepted and met my dad while she was a student nurse, taking care of his mother.

They were married a little over ten years when Daddy decided to go to nursing school. I was in 2nd grade when he graduated, and there was never anything else I wanted to be, but a nurse.

So, as you seem to be adjusting to this and recognizing, this is not the end of your dream. It's just a new twist, and who knows where it will take you.

One of my very favorite quotes is: Everything works out in the end. If it hasn't worked out yet, it isn't the end.


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Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HFSSC _ That is an AWESOME story.

I too always wanted to be a nurse, and nothing else. When I was in high school, I had counselor tell me "You are not smart enough to become a nurse or go to a 4 year school, you should consider a lesser program, or becoming something that does not require so much schooling". SERIOUSLY!!!!

This douche was an old hippie, that I am 99% sure drank on the job, he ended up dying of Liver Cancer about 10 years ago....hmmmm. Oh and Yah, not only did I get into a nursing program, but at the time was probably the hardest one in the state.

Anyway my point is that you want to do it, and become an RN, so you will achieve it. So they didn't see a reason to admit you this go, Big deal, I too believe it happened for a reason, so just bide your time until you can reapply. If they see your name enough times they will surrender!!!

As far as jobs - If you really want to work in the medical field, and get experience you really should be looking into working in a hospital setting, I know it means weekends, and holidays, but the experience they want you to have, and that you will need to be great really comes from that acute care setting.
Most offices don't hire folks that are not Medical Assistants, so you may find it very difficult to find a job in that setting, whereas if you are a Prenursing major, many Hospitals are willing to put you through CNA training, and give you a good job, then the nurses you work with will allow you to see, do, and learn based on your intrest level and work load.


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Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
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Slayer
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Default  Posted: 10:56 PM, January 19th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. But don't give up. I remember the stress of getting admitted and it's tough. But those of us who made it kept hope, and never have up. :) you can do it

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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sort of adding to what everyone else has already said. I know that feeling if being so in love with a particular thing and have it not work out. For me it was a job that I was certain I would get and when I didn't, I kept thinking there must be some mistake! This is what I'm supposed to do and I had all the "right" people recommend me...

Turns out, it wasn't what I was supposed to do and I found something else that I'm even more in love with.

Not to trivialize how you're feeling, I trust that you really were in love with this school and it really does hurt to be rejected, especially after thinking you were going to get in. But I also trust that there is another way of achieving what you want to do that just might end up being even better.

Also, I went to a grad school that I thought was amazing when I researched and toured it and by the end of my program I was disenchanted. There will be amazing things about other schools, just like there are likely things you would have disliked about this school after going there. Anyway, if they don't want to have you then poo on them. You'll go where you're valued and appreciated and graduation will feel that much sweeter!


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Divorced 10/11/12
He didn't show up for the D...very fitting, seeing as he didn't show up for the M, either : )
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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry poopylala.

BH and I both said after meeting you that you will be a great nurse.

Happy to see you not giving in to discouragement. You will definitely get there. The community college pharm course with option to transfer sounds like a really good option.

These things do happen for a reason. I wanted to be a physical therapist and had done all the prereqs then moved to live near my family with my very young DD due to divorcing my first H. No physical therapy programs nearby so I decided to get my BS in nursing so I could support DD and myself and then do physical therapy later on. I ended up falling in love with nursing and am positive I would not have liked PT nearly as much. My mom had always wanted me to be a nurse but I refused (probably because she wanted me to). I also met my BH in nursing school. I am so happy that things worked out the way they did.

I feel positive things will work out very well for you too. You will get through nursing school and become a fabulous, caring, smart nurse. You will advocate for your patients and improve the lives you touch.

Keep moving forward. You've got this!


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D-day August 27, 2012
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knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another story.

My BH got rejected by the nursing program at our university several times. He was even retaking classes for a higher grade for a couple semesters trying to get in. The last time he received a rejection letter he went to his advisor and decided to change majors. He was giving up. He brought his slip into the nursing office to be signed and an instructor who liked him talked to him and told him to wait right there for a minute. She took his slip into the deans office and came back and told him he was in. They had just had someone decline their admission. He had been a paramedic for a while already so he had some experience and they wanted him. He was admitted into the same class with me. He was working full time as a paramedic so I helped him study and shared my notes with him. We became really good friends and then fell in love. Marrying him after we graduated was the best decision I ever made.

He has now gone on to complete medical school and residency and works as an ER doctor. He is loved by the nurses and patients as one of the best docs in our small city. (I'm not biased at all.)😃

My point is he was rejected multiple times and has succeeded and now feels he is where he is supposed to be.

Chin up!

[This message edited by knightsbff at 2:43 PM, January 20th (Monday)]


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Posts: 1499 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
poopylala
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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I wrote this is November, I was very upset but since then, I realized there is a silver lining- I have forgotten so much anatomy and physiology!!

A friend taking those classes offered to study together so I am using this time to relearn the material. I have reapplied for the summer and fall semester starts and realized that my not getting in is no reflection on me as a person but as a candidate in a large applicant pool.

Thank you for your support and encouragement

Ps- the community college route will cost a lot of money to prepare for and be accepted into so if I don't get in for the summer or fall semesters at this university, I'll look into that then.


BGF (me)- 25
FWBF (him)- 24
Was in a LTR but it's complicated now

forgiven and in R :)

"To err is human.
To forgive,
divine"


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