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User Topic: After the mammogram, now the biopsy :(
AppleBlossom
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh honey, what a shitty thing to have happen. I completely understand how you feel, having been through this and other health issues and scares over the years. the waiting, and the not knowing is very hard. If you feel down or tearful, dont be too hard on yourself. Treat yourself as you need to, and lean on us as much as you need.

Feel free to pm me.

Lots of love and good thoughts.


Posts: 154 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Australia
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you hugs-- this happened to me almost two years ago on my very first mammogram. The radiologist found a very suspicious spot, and he had it biopsied right then and there because he was so worried. The waiting was so stressful, and it happened right after I had finally moved out and thought I was finally going to enjoy my NB.

Fortunately, it was benign. Sending you that calm, positive mojo that you need to get through this incredibly stressful time.

Oh, and BTW-- when I told XWH because I was so frightened and worried about what would happen and how we'd care for the kids, it was like talking to a robot. He couldn't have sounded less concerned when I spoke to him on the phone about it, so I also get how you feel in terms of lack of support. I turned to my friends and family in that time, so you do that as well. Don't rely on him for anything.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3546 | Registered: Oct 2011
AussieMum
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Default  Posted: 10:54 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sending hugs and lots of luck. All of this is tough enough without having to deal with the in-house separation and all the other crap.

I went through this situation a few years back - mammogram, ultrasound then biopsy - turned out to be a benign fibroadenoma. I totally understand what you're going through now with the waiting and the anxiety. Lean on your friends and on us too (((jemimapd))


Me 46
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS11 & DD7)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14

Posts: 180 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Pass
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Default  Posted: 11:24 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm hoping all the best for you, Jemima.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

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Posts: 1708 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending a prayer and hugs tonight. Went through the scare four years ago, it turned out benign. Loads of strength to you.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1232 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 11:53 PM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, (((jemima)))) Millions of hugs and prayers.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8346 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
openedupmyeyes
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Happy  Posted: 4:39 AM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending hugs,prayers, and support!


Me:53 BS
Him:53 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
Years married:35
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.

Posts: 760 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: The Great State of Texas
Iamacrab
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Default  Posted: 5:11 AM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you my support and big hugs. I'm thinking positively for you!

Posts: 103 | Registered: Aug 2013
marlie2014
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I, too, send my support. I have been scared myself because of biopsies done recently and the possibility of a hysterectomy looms. And it's awful to go through it without the person whom you thought would be there for you 'in sickness and in health.'

(((hugs)))


BS: 33
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
1 OC 5 yrs old and another on the way (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 209 | Registered: Oct 2013
Elaine2012
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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((jemimapd))) sending mojo!


Me- 53
WH- 57
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 2 SIL, 3 grandchildren

Posts: 285 | Registered: Jul 2012
JustDone
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so so so sorry.

Are you going to have a stereotactic? I've had three, one showed a pre-cancerous condition, so I had to have a surgical biopsy to remove the three small lumps.

Sorry you are dealing with this and a in-house separation, I'm so grateful we have two houses on our property.

Hugs!

pm me anytime if you want more info or to talk.

-JD


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Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.


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jemimapd
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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you so much for all the support!!

I have the biopsy next Tuesday so a week of waiting but I am just going to try to put it out of my mind. It is a small incision guided by ultrasound so not a big deal. I just want to be able to get on with my life without everything hanging over me.


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((jemima)))

More hugs and good wishes here. Please do something extra nice for yourself while you're waiting to hear.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


Posts: 3271 | Registered: Dec 2011
tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((hugs)))))


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4559 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
jemimapd
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today I went for an ultrasound guided biopsy and the result was........

ALL CLEAR - I AM SO RELIEVED

The previous ultrasound had showed the lump was solid.

It turned out to be a fluid-filled cyst. So it has completely gone.

G-O-N-E

Thank you so much to everyone who posted and PM'd me!!!!

PLEASE- if you are behind schedule on your mammogram, get it scheduled!

There was no way you could find my lump by self-examination, it only showed up on a mammogram
.

It's tough out there - look after yourself!


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
PhoenixRisen
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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yeah! whew. (((jemimapd))
But great reminder to schedule those mammograms

Posts: 474 | Registered: Jun 2012
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

**clapping hands**

I didn't know I was holding my breath until I read your update.

So happy for you, jem!!

As much as they suck they have proven, over and over again, that they can save lives!


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

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Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 4:15 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!!! So happy to hear this great news!!


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 617 | Registered: May 2013
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Woot woot.
I've had a few cancer scare rodeos too! My most recent was the same week STBXH walked out on me. He still hasn't asked me if I'm gonna live or die! FTG!

It ain't over til the fat lady sings, and turns out your fat lady has laryngitis!
Fantastic news.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2181 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
LifeIsBroken
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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay ! Glad to know you received the all clear. A huge relief. Continue taking care of YOU !


Actions ALWAYS have consequences. Too bad cheaters don't consider the consequences BEFORE they create so much damage.

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