When they got hime I asked the kids what they did. They said they went to a restaurant for dinner, but did not have any cake. (to me, no cake on a birthday is totally blasphemous, but whatever ... She's a slunt.). That's not the weird part. The weird part is that my kids gave her nothing.
What makes that much more weird is that my kids are little so it would be ex who would have to make the effort to give her a little something from my kids. He didn't.
Now, don't get me wrong, I don't think that bitch deserves one thing from my kids. They don't much like her and she doesn't much like them from what I can tell. But, if I'm the guy stuck in the middle of that mess and I'm trying to build a new life and a new blended family, I would likely ask them to draw her a picture, make her a card, or pick up a cupcake or a flower to give from them. Her kids did that for him on his birthday. That never happened the other way around for the slunt. It's like he still wants to keep my kids as separate from her as possible and the efforts to "blend" don't happen.
I suppose I will never get it and I suppose I see it as a nice bit of karma that my kids didn't just adjust and accept everything blindly like he initially claimed they would. At the same time, don't you think it's just fucking weird????
WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW. Undiagnosed SA?)
Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.
Remember those Jack-in-the-box toys from when we were younger? I think it'd be a fine idea to retro-fit one and make your very own "Slunt-in-a-Box". What slunt can resist a cheery tune and a big giant sign that reads "Whore" popping out at the end of the tune?
[This message edited by GabyBaby at 4:57 PM, November 11th (Monday)]
I would likely ask them to draw her a picture, make her a card, or pick up a cupcake or a flower to give from them.
You would have done this, because you're thoughtful of others. Your xWH didn't do it. It almost seems like he might be focused more on himself them others. (Smile.)
Funny thing is, he helps them pick out gifts for me for Christmas, my birthday and mother's day. I had to get firm with him on that one and explain that it's his job as their father to teach them to be thoughtful and show respect to their mother. I do it for him on his occasions so it's only right that he does it for me. Odd that this did not translate to the slunt.
I wonder if she was ever any good at connect the dots?
Have a good laugh then no more headspace.
So, I think it's a combination of being lazy and not needing anymore to turn it on. I think it's pretty well known between them that his kids are his to deal with, down to the point that if they are at a restaurant, he will take DD to the restroom rather than the slunt taking her into the ladies room. My kids have only been left alone with her once for no more than 15 minutes. He takes them on errands and everywhere he needs to go even if she is around and available to watch them for a while.
He's not blind and he's not intellectually stupid (emotionally, yes he is stupid), so he must see that there is no attachment to her and he must see that she could care less. To me and most other normal, reasonable parents, that then begs the question, why be with someone who doesn't like your kids? All I can say is that he's stuck. He is her supervisor at work. They live together and even though he bought the house, she and her kids took over that house. And, let's not discount the fact that she really is bat shit crazy. It was way easier to get rid of me than it will ever be to get rid of her. For now, it looks like he must march on with this pathetic charade until something major cracks.
But...if he was still trying to put on a big show, he would have been making the effort to make the slunt happy. He's not putting forth much effort, because honestly, I think he's damned miserable, and he's made his bed, now he has to sleep in it. (in the other room, of course)
I think he's biding his time until he can find his next victim.
Don't let it bother you too much. As long as he does what is right by you with the childen, don't concern yourself with the slunt. She is not worth your headspace and neither is he.
Nor would I want to know.
[This message edited by Ashland13 at 2:15 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)]
The only thing that stays the same, is change. -M. Etheridge