[This message edited by Michman at 5:50 PM, April 7th (Monday)]
What a beautiful little girl. The joy on her face speaks volumes.
Protect her brother!
When I was called in to have a mtg with WW and her caseworker, I was told that my WW not knowing the status of our relationship was a huge factor and concern to her healing and treatment. I calmly said, "her actions have consequences. I cannot speak today on the status of our relationship. It is in very grave condition but I'm surely not going to announce here and now what may be coming. I certainly didn't get a "heads up, I'm about to invite some internet fuck buddy over to the house for sex." I said perhaps the focus should be on focusing on her underlying issues that caused this behavior, not the results or potential consequences of the behavior. Ialso said that this whole episode is just the ultimate manipulation on WW part. She got caught, knew the marriage was over, took a bunch of pills, went to ER, then transfer to psychiatric hospital for 8-9 days, then come home, and hope all is better.
I will allow her to get her treatment. Other than that, it's 180, detach, save $, plan, spend time with DD, do things I want/like to do.
Went to Easter service in the church where WW and I were married, and also where DD was baptized. Every minute I was there I was thinking, "scene of the crime" and "it's not even funny I'm in here right now." At one point during the service I lifted DD off of the kneelers and hit the back of my head on a column so hard I saw stars. So that was fun. The Father who baptized our daughter said, "haven't seen you guys in a while" and I said, "well, we've been busy and out of the area." What I wanted to say was, "sorry, but my wife is not following through on the vows she swore to uphold in this very church."
After inpatient stay for WW (see previous posts) she had to do out patient for a few days. Using the "find my iphone" feature, I was able to track her. On her last day of outpatient, she was over 2 hours late. When I asked her what time she got there (the roads were icy that morning) she lied about being two hours late. Strike 1
In two days, WW used 2GB on her cell phone. Our plan allows 14GB total for 3 phones, and we have not exceeded this ever. The pattern was similar to last summer when she was sending/receiving videos. Strike 2
General disrespect-leaving the house a mess for when I get home to clean up from DD lunch, laying in bed napping and masturbating instead. Instead of helping DD with Easter Egg hunt (at her family's celebration) she sat around talking to her sister in law and aunts. Yesterday she said she was sick, and had diarrhea and poo'd herself. Tossed blanket and clothes in upstairs trash can, left poop in tub and shower handle, etc. WTF am I living with??? I had to ask her several times (and as of 630am today had not been done yet) to bag up her shitty items and put them in the outdoor trash can. She reiterates that she has been sick, yet she can lay in bed and eat Easter candy til the cows come home.
Oh yeah, still livin' the "good" life. Walking towards the D.
As an idea, there are some really great people in the separation and divorce forum, who could give you some good ideas on what to and not to do, plus give you support through this process.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
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