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Michman
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Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

double post

[This message edited by Michman at 5:50 PM, April 7th (Monday)]


Betrayal is the only truth that sticks. -Arthur Miller, lol, that's rich.

Posts: 57 | Registered: Nov 2013
5454real
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a beautiful little girl. The joy on her face speaks volumes.

Protect her brother!

Strength


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2995 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a cutie. Oh and just on that pic she is yours.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8718 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Michman
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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WW is probably getting out of psychiatric hospital tomorrow or next day. Will probably have to go to outpatient program. I'm just kinda "whatever"

When I was called in to have a mtg with WW and her caseworker, I was told that my WW not knowing the status of our relationship was a huge factor and concern to her healing and treatment. I calmly said, "her actions have consequences. I cannot speak today on the status of our relationship. It is in very grave condition but I'm surely not going to announce here and now what may be coming. I certainly didn't get a "heads up, I'm about to invite some internet fuck buddy over to the house for sex." I said perhaps the focus should be on focusing on her underlying issues that caused this behavior, not the results or potential consequences of the behavior. Ialso said that this whole episode is just the ultimate manipulation on WW part. She got caught, knew the marriage was over, took a bunch of pills, went to ER, then transfer to psychiatric hospital for 8-9 days, then come home, and hope all is better.

I will allow her to get her treatment. Other than that, it's 180, detach, save $, plan, spend time with DD, do things I want/like to do.


Betrayal is the only truth that sticks. -Arthur Miller, lol, that's rich.

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Michman
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

6 month update:

Went to Easter service in the church where WW and I were married, and also where DD was baptized. Every minute I was there I was thinking, "scene of the crime" and "it's not even funny I'm in here right now." At one point during the service I lifted DD off of the kneelers and hit the back of my head on a column so hard I saw stars. So that was fun. The Father who baptized our daughter said, "haven't seen you guys in a while" and I said, "well, we've been busy and out of the area." What I wanted to say was, "sorry, but my wife is not following through on the vows she swore to uphold in this very church."

After inpatient stay for WW (see previous posts) she had to do out patient for a few days. Using the "find my iphone" feature, I was able to track her. On her last day of outpatient, she was over 2 hours late. When I asked her what time she got there (the roads were icy that morning) she lied about being two hours late. Strike 1

In two days, WW used 2GB on her cell phone. Our plan allows 14GB total for 3 phones, and we have not exceeded this ever. The pattern was similar to last summer when she was sending/receiving videos. Strike 2

General disrespect-leaving the house a mess for when I get home to clean up from DD lunch, laying in bed napping and masturbating instead. Instead of helping DD with Easter Egg hunt (at her family's celebration) she sat around talking to her sister in law and aunts. Yesterday she said she was sick, and had diarrhea and poo'd herself. Tossed blanket and clothes in upstairs trash can, left poop in tub and shower handle, etc. WTF am I living with??? I had to ask her several times (and as of 630am today had not been done yet) to bag up her shitty items and put them in the outdoor trash can. She reiterates that she has been sick, yet she can lay in bed and eat Easter candy til the cows come home.

Oh yeah, still livin' the "good" life. Walking towards the D.


Betrayal is the only truth that sticks. -Arthur Miller, lol, that's rich.

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nekonamida
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. It sounds like she truly believes having had a suicide attempt has successfully rug swept her many As not that she admitted to anything in the first place. She will get a big wake up call when she finds out you filed for D.

Posts: 102 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: United States
Skan
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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Take photos, document, document, document. All good arguments for you getting primary custody and legal custody. Build your case, incident by incident, for your divorce. And please, if you have a 6 month waiting period, get those papers filed so that you can get started on that particular brand of hell.

As an idea, there are some really great people in the separation and divorce forum, who could give you some good ideas on what to and not to do, plus give you support through this process.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4949 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You need to video this evidence that is a particular kind of fucked up. What woman shits herself and makes a mess and leaves it? That is not only a psych issue, but a health issue. How is hepatitis spread? Through stool. Your DD doesn't need to near this batshit crazed woman. Sorry if she can't bag her poopy sheets, then she certainly isn't bother to wash her hands after pooping.

Document document document.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8718 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
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