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User Topic: Confrontation tonight- need some support
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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, November 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Wondertwin)) I am so sorry for your pain, you dont deserve it.

DIVORCED! Remarried to a real man!
BW (me) - 41 (now 46)
WH (him) - 43 (now 48)
OW - 23 yr old foreign gold digging whore looking for her American meal ticket
1 14 yr old son (now 19)
married 20 years/together 25 years
D day - 9/23/2009 5pm

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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, November 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just thinking of you.

I am stronger than the storm.
I take every experience in my life, no matter how horrendous it was, as a learning experience

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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, November 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I slowly lost my mind one sentence at a time.

Oh WT, I have been there and it is awful, truly horrific, I know *exactly * how you're feeling today.

Big hugs to you. It's a long road ahead. Take care of yourself first.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, November 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I can tell you that when we had a similar event is when the fog really started to lift for my H. Pay attention to the actions.

You are doing what's best for you, taking care of you, finding some joy in your kids, and just getting through each day as they come.

Remember this is all on him. He chose this, and he caused this. It's up to him to start the work of fixing it. If he doesn't then you will be better, stronger, and happier without him.

((((and strength))))

Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, November 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

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Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, November 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you're very wise to just let yourself be at this point, wt.

Have some faith in yourself. You've got a lot of inner resources, and you've got a strong desire to heal. You may not be able to describe what you need right now, but it'll come to you, in all probability.

fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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Default  Posted: 11:57 AM, November 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. We all know how awful the pain is. We're all holding your hands right now. Feel our strength.

BS (me): 50
WS: 50
Married: 26 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R

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Default  Posted: 12:17 PM, November 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish I had words of wisdom but I don't all. I have is support of I have been there too...& I feel another one will come but cling to the hope that he really did come clean this last time. You can & will get through this

WH 29
1 Child
Married 11 yrs
D-Day: 4/9/13 he cheated in '08 & now + trickle truth & tons of lies 6/27 Found more, swears I really do have the whole truth now.
2/2/14 found out seems the TT never ends.
Trying to R

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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad that he opened up. I pray that this is it the entire truth. It is exactly like going back to DDay. Actually, it can be even worse IMO, because having once mustered the strength to try to go on, you're left with another empty, gaping hole, and less energy and desire to pick yourself up again. I think that you're wise to take a couple of days to just process, let your brain start to actually begin to function again. (((hugs)))

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

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